When A Guy Says He Needs To Focus On Himself

According to Esther Boykin, LMFT, a relationship therapist in Washington, D.C., “focused on yourself” usually means “not engaging in further relationships” or “not putting the energy into dating again.” This can be a useful step for people who feel that they’ve lost or misplaced aspects of themselves.

Before You Continue…

Does he REALLY like you? Take this quick quiz to find out! Find out what he REALLY thinks, and how strong his feelings for you are. Start the quiz now!

How long does a guy need space for?

This is a question about how long a piece of string is. You get to choose how long you want to wait for him to make a decision.

Anything more than a month is pushing it, as he understands you have a life of your own and can’t expect you to put everything on pause for him.

He could say how much time he requires. If he doesn’t, it’s up to you to decide. How long do you think you’ll be able to wait?

Should I text him if he asked for space?

I know from my experience that when a man suddenly pulls away, it triggers a SUPER-STRONG desire to urgently cling to him.

Regrettably, giving in to that temptation would almost certainly make your man even more distant.

Don’t try to break it by messaging him all the time or making excuses to visit him.

Trying to persuade a man to let you in when he isn’t ready will simply cause him to PULL AWAY even more.

No one enjoys being in charge. These kinds of actions have the potential to drive men away permanently.

It’s normal for guys to need space.

When a man claims he wants his space, two things are usually going on in his mind at the same time. He may be having doubts about whether or not he wants to stay associated with you because of aspects of the relationship and/or his life, and red flags may be flying for him.

At the same time, there are components of your relationship and how he thinks about you that he cares about enough to make him say he needs space rather than simply saying goodbye and calling it quits.


Use these easy techniques to “lock-in” a man’s commitment to you, and to make him love you FOREVER!

Unfortunately, many men are uncomfortable feeling two opposing feelings at the same time, so they may require some time to comprehend everything.

What does a guy mean when he says he needs time?

2. Inventive+ phrasing “It either indicates they require space and time to process their feelings or that they desire a break from the relationship to spend time with other women. Depending on the circumstances, people can choose which alternative appears to be more likely.”

3. If you’re looking for a “I need to take a step back from the situation and assess where I am, where I’m headed, and so on.”

a “It suggests I want to be alone, or at the very least separate from the individual with whom I’m conversing. I’d like to take care of my problems on my own before returning. It’s an extremely simple concept.”

a “For the past three decades, I’ve been in a long-term relationship with the same woman. It’s every bit as fantastic a relationship as one could hope for. My marriage to my wife was the best decision I’ve ever made. I’ve never encountered a better friend, a better lover, or a more down-to-earth, gorgeous, and funny lady. That being said, we both yearn for some alone time and quiet downtime to recuperate. Neither of us is possessive of the other or exclusively reliant on the other for fulfillment or happiness. “Taking a break from it makes it interesting and gratifying.”

Do guys need time to process feelings?

A man may need to be alone from time to time. Silence and isolation, on the other hand, are not always associated with being sad or furious. Men can become worried when they are confronted with feelings they don’t comprehend. When a man is stressed, according to Dr. Rick Nauert, the male brain begins to shut down, particularly the areas of the brain responsible for interpreting one’s feelings.


Use these easy techniques to “lock-in” a man’s commitment to you, and to make him love you FOREVER!

Take a break to allow your guy some time to think. A time-out is about reflection and problem-solving for us men. We’re figuring things out and just need some time to focus, understand the emotion, and figure out the next move. Consider a time-out as a defensive strategy that allows us to work through whatever stress we’re dealing with. We aren’t necessarily fleeing the emotion; our brains simply require more time to process it.

What is the 3 day rule for guys?

Millennials are a perplexing breed when it comes to love. We’d rather purchase a house than pay for a wedding, and we’re quitting our jobs in order to travel and explore the globe with a partner we’ll never marry (and never divorce). Before ever meeting IRL, we most likely met our significant others on a dating app or followed their social media, and we tag our platonic pals in wacky romance memes with the words “Soo us!”

So, how do traditional dating standards apply to a generation that is drastically changing the face of love? Take the three-day rule, for example. The three-day dating rule, popularized by the romcom, requires a person to wait three full days before contacting a possible suitor. A first-day text or call seems impatient, a second-day contact appears planned, but three days seems to be the ideal amount of time.

How To Capture His Heart And Make Him Fall For You

Here’s what we’ve realized after so many years of experience as dating coaches:

It’s really easy to make men fall for you once you know the “cheat code”.

See, most women don’t really know how men think, and why they act the way they do…

In fact, they go through their whole life never meeting the perfect guy who treats them right.

Don’t let this be you!

We’ve taught thousands of girls around the world the special “cheat code” to a man’s heart.

Once you learn the truth about how the male mind works, you can make any man fall in love with you.

Here’s how it works:

There are special tricks you can use to target the “emotional triggers” inside his mind.

If you use them the right way, he will start to feel a deep desire for you, and forget about any other woman in his life…

The best part? These techniques are based on psychology, so they work on any man, no matter how old you are or what you look like.

To learn about these simple techniques, check out this free eBook NOW:


Use these easy techniques to “lock-in” a man’s commitment to you, and to make him love you FOREVER!

As women, we understand how you feel.

But no matter what other people say, always remember:

You are an AMAZING woman…

And you deserve an amazing man who loves you, respects you and treats you special.

So start using these special techniques today, and see how quickly men fall in love with you immediately!


Use these easy techniques to “lock-in” a man’s commitment to you, and to make him love you FOREVER!

More FlirtSavvy Articles

Will No Contact Make Him Move On

Your boyfriend or girlfriend has expressed their want to end their relationship with you and no longer be romantically involved with you. You probably came on this page by looking for information on how to get your ex back or viewing one of my YouTube videos. You probably read or heard to me propose the No Contact Rule when you went to war to get your ex back. No contact with your ex, on the other hand, may have struck…

Read More

How To Make Him Jealous And Want You More

I realize this is all a little ridiculous. Women don’t need someone to save them and be their heroes in today’s world. But here’s the funny thing: it’s true. Men still have a need to be heroes. We seek out partnerships that allow us to feel like a guardian because it’s in our DNA. Check watch this free online video if you want to understand more about the hero instinct. Some ideas have the potential to transform the game. And…

Read More

How To Make Him Think Of You

Okay, this is for the drama queens and kings among us. Slipping a pair of your sexiest underwear into his briefcase, bag, or laptop case will make him think more about you. If you don’t want his coworkers thinking about you all day, place them somewhere safe where they won’t inadvertently fall out in front of everyone. Do something completely unexpected. If you always get together after work, switch things up. Surprise him by showing up outside his office wearing…

Read More

What Guys Want When They Are Sick

When your lover is sick, whether it’s a simple cold or a stomach bug, you’ll want to look after him and console him. He might be exaggerating and acting like a huge baby, but if you go out of your way to help him, you’ll get significant brownie points. Because when a man is unwell, all he wants is to be molly coddled. Even if he’s behaving like he’s got the plague when it’s just a slight cold, indulge him…

Read More

How Can I Make Him Miss Me Badly

You want to be comforted not just so that you may feel pleased in your relationship, but also so that your love story can continue to flourish. This is why convincing him to miss you can be a viable option. You can not only be certain of his feelings for you, but you can multiply them tenfold. Make the time you spend together amazing so he wants you around more. You mix up the power play between you and make…

Read More

How To Know If A Guy Just Wants Sex

It’s wonderful to be with someone who makes you feel good about yourself, but you’ve probably realized that the majority of his praises are directed towards your appearance. This is an indication that he solely wants to sleep with you and isn’t interested in anything else. He might not appreciate your personality or anything other than your physical attractiveness. He would tell you how much he admires other elements of you if he liked you, not only make compliments about…

Read More