How To Be More Attractive To My Husband

Here are eight things you may do to increase your attraction to your spouse.

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Why do I feel less attracted to my husband?

This is totally natural, but overexposure to your husband can lead to a decrease in your sex appeal to him over time. When we spend a lot of time with someone, they lose their freshness in our eyes, which can affect how attractive they are to you. Anxiety can be caused by excessive intimacy.

What is the sweetest thing to say to your husband?

The loveliest things to say to your hubby are listed here. Hey, Baby, it’s only your smile that brightens my day. I’m not sure I could have come up with someone as lovely as you if I had the ability to create my own man. Your hug is my home, and your smile is happiness.

How can I look good as a man?

It’s not uncommon for a relationship’s passion, sexual tension, and passionate enthusiasm to wane with time.

This isn’t an unavoidable consequence of being in a long-term relationship (I know many couples who have highly charged intimate relationships after being together for several decades). This is simply a predicament that most couples find themselves in after a few years of being together.

It’s possible that you’ll start taking each other for granted. It’s possible that a sense of familiarity with each other’s bodies takes control. Small, unprocessed squabbles pile up, and animosity simmers beneath the surface, like a silent din in your relationship.

It’s not as difficult as you would believe to rekindle the passion in your relationship. Even if you’ve been ignoring the fact that you’re disconnected for years.

Getting the spark back will take some effort, just like everything worthwhile. It was well worth the effort. That is, if you enjoy being admired and worshipped as a brilliant sexual queen by your spouse.

Some of these strategies will work so well (and so rapidly) that you’ll feel like you have an excessive amount of power. “With tremendous power comes enormous responsibility,” Gandhi once stated. Just joking. That’s what Spiderman said.

I trust your heart is in the right place if you’ve reached my website. I recommend that you only use these approaches on men with whom you are in a relationship or who you are serious about having commit to you.

Last but not least, keep in mind that many of the following behaviors aren’t things you’ll be doing all of the time; rather, they’re strategies you can employ when you want to boost or sustain sexual polarity with your spouse.

Extend your vowels

Extending your vowels while speaking is one of the quickest methods to make yourself more desirable to your man in the present.

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If you’re always racing through your phrases and chatting to him as if you’re in a boardroom, he’ll start to regard you as a work colleague rather than a lover.

But if you get out of your head, into your body, and slow down the pace at which you speak, you will instantly draw him closer to you.

Believe me, there’s a big difference between “You look nice” and “Baaaabyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

Also, it should go without saying, but don’t take them to the point of becoming humorous or ludicrous. Simply slow down your speaking in comparison to what your natural, real speed would be.

Does it seem too good to be true? Give it a shot. Don’t be surprised if he pounces on you and showers you with all the physical attention he can muster.

Invite him into his senses

One of the most valuable gifts the feminine can bestow to the masculine is the invitation to return to the domain of the senses.

Let’s say he’s rattling off numbers, goals, and facts and figures to you (maybe over a home cooked meal you prepared for him), and you get the impression he’s locked in his brain and not paying attention to you.

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You can calm him down by giving him a bite of the food you prepared and saying, “Mmmmm… have you tried this?” It’s incredibly invigorating! “Doesn’t it just make your mouth dance?” Alternatively, you may get up, walk over to him, and kiss him on the cheek. Or, for a little while, stroking his shoulders.

Life is reminded to the masculine by the feminine. It reminds the man that life is happening right now… not some distant time in the future when objectives and achievements are attained. But today, right now, is a different story. Be a positive factor in his life who helps him reconnect with his body, and he’ll start to identify his presence, groundedness, and connection to his body with your positive influence.

Compliment him

While most guys aren’t motivated by praise, they do appreciate a sincere complement from their partner every now and then.

You’ll want to compliment two things in particular (as long as these things are actually true for you).

To begin, compliment the aspects of his personality that you believe are most important to him. Second, you’ll want to commend the areas in which you believe he lacks confidence. I’ll provide examples of both of these concepts.

Let’s say your man is very attached to the work he does in the world (not at all uncommon for a modern man). When was the last time you commended your partner on his professional accomplishments? Have you told him how appealing his enthusiasm is to you? If so, how long ago? Have you informed him that you admire his commitment to mastery in his professional life? Have you told him how much you like his enthusiasm when he talks about his job? Why not, if not? If these themes aren’t readily available in your mind, set aside some time to think about what you perceive him as most identified with in his life, and then reflect back to him a compliment connected to those themes.

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What aspects of your one-of-a-kind man’s personality do you know he is particularly self-conscious about? Are you perplexed by any of those insecurities? For example, maybe your boyfriend is self-conscious about his body now that he’s gained a few pounds, but you enjoy that he’s not as slender as he once was. Tell him whether this is the case. Allow it to be known. Because your praise is touching on an emotional spot for him, he may try to fight your complement (‘You’re just saying that’), but keep going with the comment until you feel his position soften a little. Even if he only lets it in 10% of the time, your words are likely more meaningful to him than he can communicate to you right now.

Again, the genuineness of the compliment is paramount. Don’t just say something because you think he’ll like it.

Sit down and compose a list of the things you admire about him. Then, for a few months, make a concerted effort to bring one of those things to him once a week, and watch him gain confidence and a stronger bond with you.

Speak from your feelings instead of making demands

Now it’s time for another winner. A relationship can be made or broken by the adoption or ignorance of this one simple (but crucial) communication shift.

What is one cultural cliché that guys in the mainstream media often rail against? They bemoan the fact that their partner is a nag. In this case, a nag is just someone who is demanding and/or makes a lot of requests of their partner… typically with a nasty tone to match their demands.

But here’s the kicker: it’s not so much that women are meant to be self-sufficient and never ask for anything (far from it)… it’s how they ask that might degrade the relationship’s quality. This is why.

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In order to function properly, an intimate relationship requires a sense of polarity. In other words, it’s ideal for one spouse to embody the masculine charge and the other partner to embody the feminine charge at all times. This has nothing to do with gender or orientation, as it always has.

When a woman demands that her boyfriend/husband take out the garbage, the problem isn’t so much that she’s asking for something to be done; it’s that the method she’s asking for it to be done is eliminating the polarity between them. That is the true problem.

Here are some examples of what most people do and what a better method to approach the same circumstance might be.

– Remarking “Give me your coat,” says the narrator. expressing “Brrr… I’m cold” isn’t one of them. The latter allows the man to reply to your comment by doing something about it that he has the authority to decide on.

– Inquiring, “I’m hungry… why don’t you make dinner for us anymore?” will eliminate polarity (being reprimanded, even subtly, is not appealing to anyone). Using the phrase, “Mmmm… I’m becoming hungry” is an invitation to which he can respond while retaining his polarity charge.

– Declaring, “When was the last time you made plans for us to have a date night? “It feels like it’s been a long time…” will suffocate polarity. Using the phrase, “I’d love to do something exciting with you soon!” is an invitation for him to fill in the blanks and come up with a fun activity for the two of you to do.

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The individual asking is speaking from their feelings (cold, hungry, desire for fun), rather than making straightforward demands, as seen in these cases.

(Want some more advice on how to connect with your boyfriend in a way that he understands? Take a look at this.)

Make your own pleasure and happiness a priority

Finally, there is nothing more appealing than a person who is overflowing with genuine delight.

If you’ve been stuck in a rut recently, it’s common to have emotions of separation and unhappiness in your relationship. Unfortunately, there is only one way out: through. If you’re feeling misaligned, stuck, or stagnant in your life, you’ll have to put in the effort to get unstuck. Only you know where your true happiness can be found.

There is no greater gift you can offer yourself than to prioritize yourself in this way and set up your life so that you are bursting with delight (to yourself, and to your partner). While I disagree with the adage that a happy wife makes for a happy life (it smacks of codependency and emotional entanglement), there is something to be said for being in a relationship with someone who values themselves enough to put their own pleasure first.

Keep in mind that you and your partner are ultimately accountable for your own happiness. Your partner, like you, does not have the ability to read minds. You’re in charge of meeting your own needs, and once you’ve done so, you may share your delight with the relationship as a gift.

Give him your full trust more often

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If you constantly second-guess your boyfriend (in your brain or out loud), he will eventually sense it and begin to dislike you. The macho wants to be completely trusted. “The finest thing my wife could say to me is ‘I trust you,'” one of my male customers remarked just last week. That means more to me from her nine times out of ten than I love you.”

Give your partner the benefit of the doubt instead of challenging every decision he makes. Make educated guesses about how he navigates his life. But only if you have complete faith in the man you’re with. If you don’t trust him and have lost respect for him, that’s an other conversation altogether (and you may need to have a difficult talk with him, or possibly even dissolve the partnership).

At different points in your relationship, try practicing complete trust with him.

– When he’s driving the car in which you’re riding shotgun, let go of all mental control over how he’s driving or the path he’s going. Drop into your full feminine flow and trust his manly direction.

– When you’re making love and he’s piercing your body, take a deep breath and take him all the way in. Allow his presence to pervade your entire being. Surrender completely to the present moment and trust in the way he wants to make love to you at that time. Your sexual and emotional connection will increase if you truly let go.

– When he cooks dinner for you, don’t criticize what he chooses to make or how he prepares it. Trust that whatever he does comes from a place of love, and that he is giving it his all. He only wants to please you and serve your heart by filling it with love. Be confident in his approach to achieving that aim. Take a deep breath and soften back into trust if your mind starts to backslide into judgment, fear, control, or anxiety.

The ego craves power. Control is something that the mind craves. The heart, however, is an exception. The heart has no concept of control. It has complete faith in you. It is completely devoted to love.

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So take a break from being on guard all of the time… from judging and attempting to control the situation… and tune in to your heart. Trust your man completely in moments of your choice, and he’ll be inspired to act more like your king.

Get in touch with your feminine energy

By embracing your feminine aliveness, you become more appealing to your mate. Increasing the luminosity of your inner self. Getting in touch with your own heart and allowing it to come through in how you live your life and, by extension, how you show up in your relationship.

But, especially if you have pre-existing blockages to entering into the fullness of your feminine heart, this isn’t always a simple thing to do.

For a variety of reasons, connecting with your feminine energy might be challenging for some women.

– You haven’t dealt with an unresolved emotional wound with your mother (and you swore to never be like her in X, Y, and Z ways).

– Perhaps you turned off your feminine energy because it wasn’t safe for you to be radiant at one point in your life.

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– Perhaps you were reared in a patriarchal environment that valued male energy (be productive, get to the point, put on a suit, and put joy last), and you depended on your archetypically masculine tendencies to fit in.

I recommend reading my article 8 Powerful Exercises To Increase Your Feminine Energy if you haven’t already.

In a nutshell, you should cultivate your relationship with your inner feminine. Make your body move. Wear clothes that make you feel lovely. Make room in your life for fun and lightness. Allow yourself to be receptive in various aspects of your life (gifts, massages, meals, people holding space for you, etc.).

Alternatively, if connecting to your inner feminine doesn’t look anything like the above list, trust your instincts and do what feels right for you.


The majority of males enjoy being the ones to start things. Date evenings, sex, and adventures are all on the menu. However, having this burden placed directly on their shoulders can become tedious with time.

So, if you want to be the fire starter in your relationship, put in part of the effort and initiate sex/plans/date evenings once in a while.

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In certain relationships, the woman has a higher libido and is used to initiating the connection. If this is the case, this point will be less relevant to you. In fact, you should definitely lean back and allow your spouse more opportunities to begin with you.

However, in many relationships (at least the ones with which I work), the males are the ones who initiate the majority of sexual interactions.

The goal of choosing to initiate more isn’t to swing the pendulum to the other extreme and be the aggressor in all of your future sexual experiences. In that situation, you’d take on more of the masculine polarity, which might quickly depolarize your relationship.

Swinging the pendulum to the point where you initiate 100% of sexual encounters isn’t ideal, but neither is 0%. Try feeling what 10-20 percent feels like if you’re more on the 0 percent side of the spectrum. Continue if your companion replies positively.

He’ll be grateful for the chance to have you assist him… ease his weight (I had to).

Invest in your hygiene

While I don’t want this to become a Cosmo-style “Look super lovely for him 24/7 OMG LOL” fluff post, cleanliness is crucial for everyone in a relationship. But it’s not just because it’s simpler and more pleasant to look at and be near a buffed-up, nice-smelling person; it’s also because investing in personal hygiene says something about your relationship with yourself.

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Putting effort into your hygiene demonstrates that you are concerned about yourself. You value yourself enough to devote time and effort to maintaining your physical well-being. And that you’re doing these things to honor your relationship with yourself and with the other person.

You can transform an unkempt appearance into an appealing, pleasant smelling, great to touch exterior with 5-10 minutes of daily upkeep, just as you can turn a messy bedroom into a tidy one with 5-10 minutes of daily upkeep.

It’s much easier to identify as our body while we’re young. These attachments (to being recognized ‘as’ our bodies) tend to diminish as we become older. This is a blessing in many ways. We can finally let go of the tension and self-obsession that comes from continually worrying about our appearance.

But don’t allow your relationship deteriorate to the point where you neglect your body and beauty.

– Find/choose/wear a characteristic smell that you and your lover both enjoy. You often get what you pay for when it comes to perfumes and colognes. When compared to most $200-300 bottles, most $20 fragrances aren’t as nice to smell (or as healthy for your body to wear). Individual preferences will differ when it comes to grooming and hygiene, so choose what you (and your spouse) like the most.

— Groom your body on a daily basis by showering, bathing, and doing your basic grooming. Sure, skip a day or two when it makes sense. However, as a general rule, treat your daily laundry as non-negotiable as feeding yourself.

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• Eat a well-balanced diet that includes plenty of veggies and healthy foods. If you eat a diet high in processed foods, you’ll notice a difference in how you smell every day. What you eat determines who you are. Don’t consume crap (unless you want to look and smell like junk at some point).

– Make an investment in your dental health. Brush twice a day (properly) and floss once a day. Professional deep cleanings at the dentist are recommended every 6-12 months. Nobody wants to have a sexual relationship with someone who has poor oral hygiene. Nothing beats making out with someone you care about who looks after themselves from head to toe.

You know that feeling of overpowering confidence you get when you get dressed up for a special night out? Maybe it takes you two hours total to get ready to that point. What would a scaled-down, 10-to-20-minute version of that look like, and how might you apply it to your life on a regular basis? Make a decision, make it a priority, and do it as often as you can. You’ll have a lot more confidence in yourself, and your partner will benefit (and appreciate) your efforts as well.

Adorn yourself

When was the last time you revamped your wardrobe? Or perhaps you invested in a new piece of jewelry that you adore? How much delight do you get from the things you put on your body on a daily basis?

It’s a sad state of affairs if you’ve covered your body in sweatpants and ragged t-shirts for the past year and haven’t worn any make-up. Again, not because “you are a woman and hence must wear make-up to pay rent in order to exist in the world,” but because you deserve to look and feel wonderful by your own standards. I’d say the same thing to a man who hadn’t gotten a haircut in over a decade and hadn’t worn a suit. It feels wonderful to look good, as vain as it may feel to admit it.

However, it must begin with your relationship with the ornament. First and foremost, do it for yourself. Find apparel, make-up, jewelry, perfume, and other items that make you happy. The joy will then ooze out of your beingness, and he will be able to sense it.

How To Be More Attractive To Your Man

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That’s all there is to it. Slow down/expand your speech on occasion, invite him into his senses, compliment him, speak to him from your feelings, prioritize your pleasure, trust him more fully, connect with your feminine energy, initiate on occasion, invest in your hygiene, and adorn yourself in a way that makes you feel more beautiful and alive.

Try out a few of these ideas to see which ones appeal to you the most, and watch your relationship blossom virtually overnight.

Also, don’t use all of these suggestions at the same time. If you implement all of these suggestions with your partner in the next week, he will most likely get overwhelmed. It’s simple. Introduce one or two to begin with, then see how he reacts before moving on.

P.S. If you liked this essay, you might be interested in these additional resources:

— Deborah Tannen’s That’s Not What I Meant: How Conversational Style Makes Or Breaks Relationships (book)

How can I make my husband love me madly?

I understand if this sounds weird. To make your spouse fall in love with you again, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must, you must,

Couples benefit from spending time apart. It allows you to live your life on your own terms and grow as a person.

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You run the risk of developing codependency and a toxic relationship if you spend every waking moment with each other. That’s exactly what you don’t want, believe me.

When you’re busy with other things that don’t include your husband, and he’s busy with other things, you’ll have more to talk about when you do spend time together.

Most people discover how much they love someone when they aren’t present.

When he spends time away from you, he’ll notice how much he misses you, and if he misses you, the fire in his belly will be reignited.

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What makes a man happy in marriage?

Chethik explained, “Simply being in a relationship and being devoted to it, just turning up every day is a statement of love.” So, in a marriage, what makes a man happy? “Acceptance and gratitude. And it’s crucial for a man to know that he’s making a positive difference in your life “he stated

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