There’s nothing worse than getting rejected by a guy you like.
You bring up all your strength and courage to open up to him and show him your honest feelings…
Only to have him reject you and your outpouring of love.
Sometimes, he might try to avoid you or gently tell you he’s not interested. Other times, he might reject you outright and start ignoring you.
Either way, it hurts. Especially if he’s a guy you really like.
And if you’re like most girls, your heart will be flooded with emotions like shame and emptiness, while your mind races with all sorts of thoughts.
Don’t worry – It’s perfectly normal to feel this way.
As international dating and relationship coaches, we’ve seen this happen time and time again.
So what’s the best thing to do in this situation? Is there any hope left? Or should you move on?
Read on, and we’ll tell you everything you need to know:
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Why Did He Reject Me? The Real Reasons Revealed
When you get rejected by a man who you have feelings for, it’s easy to become overwhelmed by your emotions…
After all, you opened your heart to him, only to find out that he doesn’t feel the same way about you.
But in reality, there are several possible reasons why he rejected you.
In fact, he could be hiding his own feelings for you.
So before we talk about what’s the right way to respond to his rejection, let’s take a look at some possible reasons behind his rejection:
1. Bad Timing
In some cases, his rejection is not personally directed at you.
In other words, there could be a lot happening in his life that you’re not aware of.
For example, perhaps he’s going through a bad breakup with his ex, and he’s just not ready to date yet.
Or maybe he’s just too busy with work and he already has too much on his plate.
This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like you or rejects you as a person. Your advances just came at a bad time for him.
The thing is, men are rarely honest about these reasons.
It’s not easy for a man to reject a woman, so his focus will shift towards trying to reject you in the best way possible, instead of explaining to you the reasons behind his rejection.
The only way you’re going to find out is to stay in his life, and get closer to him at a later time.
2. He’s Emotionally Unprepared
As girls, we often experience that feeling of “butterflies” in our stomachs when guys ask us out…
Well, they might not admit it, but guys feel the same way too.
There’s a good chance that you gave him an emotional “shock” when you approached him with your feelings.
Men are simply not used to women asking them out or making the first move. After all, it usually goes the other way round.
That’s why his first natural reaction is likely going to retract emotionally.
In fact, this often happens if he already had some sort of hidden feelings for you!
All that nervous energy will cause him to close up and even reject you, just so he can avoid the pressure.
And later on, he will be replaying these thoughts in his head, wondering if he made the right decision…
3. He Doesn’t Feel The Same Way About You… Yet
Obviously, if a guy truly doesn’t have feelings for you at the moment, he will reject you.
But that doesn’t mean his heart is set in stone.
In fact, a guy’s emotions change all the time.
Right now, he might reject you because he doesn’t feel the same way about you. But because you made your feelings known to him, he will start to think about you, whether he wants to or not…
It plants a seed inside his heart, and the idea of being with you will be placed in his mind.
Of course, there’s a good chance that he will eventually forget about it and move on in life…
But if you take the right steps, there is a chance that you can develop and grow this idea in his mind…
How To Respond To Rejection From A Guy You Like: The RIGHT Way
As we’ve covered above, rejections are not always a simple “dead-end” for you.
They happen for complicated reasons, and things can change down the road.
The last thing you want to do is react badly to his rejection, and ruining any chances you had left with him.
So before you do anything, take a deep breath and read through the following tips.
Because if you take the right steps, you still have a chance to turn things around and make things work out for the best…
1. Stay Friends
This might sound counter-intuitive at first. After all, why would you want to “friend-zone” yourself?
But this is actually a very important first step if a guy you like rejects you.
When you get rejected by a man, it’s natural for you to drift apart, and maybe even cut each other off completely.
After all, getting rejected is a painful and embarrassing experience that you’d want to move on quickly from.
But this only means any remaining chances you had with him are completely ruined too.
Instead of burning everything to the ground, you want to stay in his life and maintain a friendship with him.
So stay positive, and just tell him that you can still be friends.
If you had already reacted badly to his rejection, it’s not too late. Simply send him a short text, telling him that you thought things through, and that you’re still open to being friends with him.
This way, you maintain an open channel of communication with him, which gives you the chance to understand what’s truly going on in his life, and maybe even get a lot closer to him in the future…
2. Be Positive And Respectful
When you get rejected by a guy, it’s easy to get defensive and emotional.
You might even start to blame him for his actions, or build up a lot of anger inside you.
But the truth is, if you act on these impulsive emotions, this will just push him away even more.
Instead, you want to be as positive and as respectful as possible.
People are naturally drawn to positivity.
And once he sees that you’re a constant source of positive energy, even after getting rejected by him, he will be pulled towards you.
He will naturally think about you, wondering “How is she so positive?” and “What is it like being around her?”
And just like that, you can turn a sad and depressing situation into a positive one that could benefit you in the future.
3. Use Appreciation To Melt His Heart
Just like positivity, appreciation is a powerful tool you can use that can draw people into your life.
By being appreciative, you demonstrate that you can always pick out the positive things in life, and put your focus on them.
And this is a very attractive thing.
So instead of dwelling in sadness and regret, focus on the bright side of the situation and show appreciation for it, no matter how difficult it may be.
For example, you could tell him:
“That’s OK! At least you were honest and direct with me. I appreciate it. We can still be friends.”
“No worries. I just wanted to be honest with you. It feels good to get it off my chest. I appreciate you for hearing me out!”
At the end of the day, most girls would react quite badly to rejection. And he expects this.
In fact, he probably prepared himself for a negative reaction from you, as well as the awkwardness that will follow…
But if you show appreciation instead, you will take him by surprise.
He will be relieved that you took it so well, and want to keep you in his life.
From there, you will naturally start building a bond with each other.
4. Empathize With Him
You can tell the size of a person by the size of their concerns.
Here’s what we mean:
A small-minded, selfish person will only think about themselves.
They will dwell only in their own feelings, and focus on getting what they want.
And if they don’t get it, they will become fretful, angry, and upset.
In contrast, a mature and confident woman has a much bigger circle of concern.
Instead of focusing on her own needs and wants, she will think about others all the time, showing them care and concern when they need it.
She will have her own emotions, but this will never stop her from connecting with others on a deep level.
Now be honest: If you were a guy, which one would you find more attractive?
Even when you’re hurting from rejection, try to think outside of yourself and widen your circle of concern.
Instead of pushing your own sadness onto him, reach out to him and try to understand and empathize with him.
After things have calmed down, don’t hesitate to talk to him about the rejection in a light-hearted, easygoing manner.
Ask him how HE felt having to reject you, and let him know that you understand how awkward it must have been for him.
By doing this, you can start to connect with him on a deep level. Instead of closing off and avoiding you, he will become comfortable with sharing his feelings with you.
Not a lot of people are able to do this, especially after getting rejected. So he will definitely pick up on this and see you in a different light.
And after a while, you might even end up becoming one of the closest people in his life…
5. Take Some Time To Heal Yourself
After getting rejected by a guy you like, it’s important to show yourself some love and care, and take some time for yourself to heal.
Like it or not, rejections hurt. And they can leave you feeling really bad about yourself.
But if you don’t take the time to heal, the pain will continue to grow inside your heart and hurt you even more.
Remember: You’re a strong, beautiful, independent woman. And you deserve to enjoy your life.
So be kind to yourself. Give yourself a break, and treat yourself gently.
Spend time with your friends. Express yourself to them. Go out and have fun together.
Being able to move on quickly from rejection is a very attractive trait. It shows that you have great inner strength and self-confidence.
And men can’t help but feel attracted to this type of woman.
Never Get Rejected Again: How To Build A Deep Emotional Connection With Any Man
Believe it or not, there’s a simple way to completely avoid getting rejected by a guy.
You see, here’s the mistake most girls make:
They get a crush on a guy, and develop feelings for him that they keep hidden…
Until one day, they let them all out, hoping that he feels the same way, and a deep connection can develop from it…
Sadly, this usually takes him by surprise, and just leads to rejection.
Instead, you need to do things the other way round.
You need to build a deep emotional connection with him first.
In fact, once you do this, there’s often no need to make the first move, because he will be the one desperate to make you his girlfriend.
As international relationship and dating coaches, we’ve helped hundreds of women around the world do exactly this.
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