Here’s a quick question for you:
What’s the best way to start a conversation with a guy?
Believe it or not, this is one of the most common questions we get.
A lot of girls worry about texting guys first, and making the first move.
Every week, we receive hundreds of emails from girls asking the same things:
“Should I text him first?… What should I say?”
We get it. It’s not easy!
It can feel very nervous when first talking to a guy… if you don’t know how to do it properly!
Today, we’ll show you EXACTLY How To Text A Guy First (according to our dating experts).
We’ll also give you 5 great text conversation starters that you can send him right away.
If you use the steps and techniques in this article, you will easily start text conversations with any guy.
(Be sure to read until the end – As a bonus, we’ll show you some text chemistry techniques to trigger powerful emotions in him, and make any guy fall for you.)
In This Article:
The Right Way To Start Text Conversations With Guys
Before we show you the conversation starters, you need to understand what is the right way of texting guys first.
This way, you will start conversations with him without sounding weird or awkward.
Here’s the secret:
You have to dive under the radar. What does this mean?
The reason why texting a guy gets awkward is your messages feel forced.
But if you learn to make your messages seem casual, guys will feel happy to receive your text.
We’re going to teach you EXACTLY how to do this…
In fact, it’s super easy – Just follow these 4 rules!
Rule 1: NEVER Just Say “Hi”
If you want a good conversation, you need to a good opener.
That’s why you should NEVER just say “Hi”.
Face it – It’s boring. And boring texts are MUCH more likely to be ignored.
In fact, 95% of conversations that begin like this go nowhere.
Also, it’s awkward, and makes the guy think “Why is she texting me?…”
You need to get more creative with your texts.
Here’s the key:
The perfect opener is something that will create a back-and-forth conversation.
(We’ll show you 5 great text conversation starters later, so keep reading…)
Rule 2: Show Him You Have A Life
If you want to attract great guys, interesting texts are not enough…
You have to be an interesting person.
He needs to look at your life and say: “Damn, I can’t miss out on her!“
The trick is to show this through text. And there are many ways to do this…
For example, if you went to the beach last weekend, you can casually mention this through text.
If you have any talents or special hobbies, mentioning them will make you very attractive.
You can even send pictures of cool things you’ve done, or doing at the moment.
These types of texts are powerful – They make your conversation more interesting and meaningful.
And it makes YOU a more attractive girl.
Rule 3: Keep It Casual
Here’s another golden rule for texting guys…
Serious conversations are boring, and turn people off.
When your texts are too logical and serious, they put a lot of pressure on the guy.
Instead, keep it casual and easygoing.
Once a guy is able to relax, he is much more likely to fall for you.
Casual vibes create positive emotions. This increases attraction, since love is an emotional process.
The easiest way to keep things casual is to chill out and enjoy the chat!
If you’re having a good time, the vibes will naturally be passed onto him.
So take it easy, and enjoy the conversation!
Rule 4: Don’t Send Multiple Texts In A Row
We know – Waiting for a reply can be frustrating.
But sending multiple texts is a HUGE turnoff. Why?
Take a moment to look back on the points we just covered:
Sending multiple texts means you are NOT an interesting person, and do not have a life.
Think about it…
If you had an interesting life, you would NOT spend time writing so many texts in a row.
(This is also why you should NEVER write long texts.)
Texting like this breaks the “Keep It Casual” rule.
It puts a lot of pressure on the guy, and he might even get creeped out.
In other words, it makes you look DESPERATE.
If you follow our tips below, you’ll definitely receive a reply. So just be patient!
Top 5 Ways To Start A Conversation With A Guy Over Text
Texting guys first can be quite hard. We understand.
So we decided to give you some conversation starters to try out.
Our team of dating experts came up with 5 special techniques you can use to start conversations with guys.
These are designed to grab a guy’s attention and generate interesting chats.
1. Talk About Something He Posted
Remember how we talked about going “under the radar”?
This opener is a great example.
If you’ve already added him on Instagram, Snapchat or Facebook, say something about his posts or stories.
A great opener template for this is Comment + Question:
Make a comment about something he posted + Add a question that he can reply to.
Maybe he just posted an Instagram story of his lunch? You can DM him and say “That looks AMAZING! Where is that?”
This technique is great because:
- It gives you both something interesting to talk about
- He feels good because you find his post interesting
- This forces him to reply and start a conversation with you
- This chat is open-ended (It can lead somewhere…)
So the next time he posts something interesting, use it to start a chat with him!
2. Talk About HIM
Do you know what’s the ONE thing a guys like talking about?
Think about it…
If someone is interested in you, and wants to hear more, it makes you feel good!
A lot of guys are actually quite shy about themselves. If he’s able to talk to you about himself, he is much more likely to fall for you.
Here’s What You Can Do:
Pick two or three things that make him unique, or things that you like about him.
Then, use the Comment + Question technique to start the conversation.
“Hey, I think your guitar playing is awesome! 😃 When did you start playing?”
These types of conversation can go deeper and more emotional too. This brings you two together.
The more emotions you create in him, the more attracted to you he will be.
3. Tell Him A Story
Here’s the secret technique only a few girls are using:
Don’t ask questions – Tell stories.
Too many questions makes a conversation boring. It gives off bad, leachy vibes.
DO NOT turn the chat into a job interview.
Instead, you should tell stories…
Stories are a chance to show you’re a cool and interesting person. You’ll start a more meaningful conversation, and he will get to know you better too.
But you must be careful. Telling random stories will just sound awkward.
You have to choose stories he can relate to.
“Hey, I was jogging at the park today and I saw this super cute puppy! She reminded me of your dog 😊”
In this message, you started a conversation about something you both love (dogs).
You also showed you’re a fit and active girl who likes jogging!
Now compare it to this:
“Hey, what are you doing?”
The truth is: This is what most girls are stuck with.
If you use stories instead of questions, you’re already beating 90% of the other girls in his inbox.
(Bonus Tip: If you have a photo of the story, send it to him too! Pictures are much more likely to get replies.)
4. Current Events and Gossip
Current events are great topics because everyone can relate to them.
If you’re not sure what to text first, this is always a safe option.
When something is on the news a lot, chances are everybody is talking about it, so it will feel completely normal to chat to him about it too.
(Be sure to talk about your own feelings about the topic)
To make it even more personal, gossiping is a great idea. This works well when you both have the same friend groups.
It shouldn’t be mean gossip, but it can be cheeky. You can talk about crushes, rumors, or even awkward moments.
5. Talk About Weekend Plans
WARNING: This is the most powerful technique on this list, but you have to be careful.
Weekend plans should NOT be used as the very first message. But you can use them right after…
If you guys start talking about an amazing dinner he had, you can casually ask him “By the way, what are you doing this weekend?”
Why does this work? Because you’re already talking about a date idea!
Asking about his weekend plans after this means you can casually suggest going there together.
Remember: This is an advanced text chemistry technique, and you have to be smart about using it…
But when used correctly, it’s an AMAZING opener!
BONUS: How To Make Him Attracted To You
So you’ve used one of these techniques to start a conversation with a guy…
Here’s what you need to know:
Guys have very short attention spans.
If you don’t capture their attention, they will lose interest fast, and get bored.
You need to turn attention into attraction.
That’s why you need to use “Love Texts”.
First, use these special texts to trigger powerful feelings inside his head.
Next, “lock-in” his feelings for you, making them stronger and deeper.
Finally, make him commit to you and ONLY you.
These texts are based on psychology, hardwired into every man’s brain. That’s why they work on every guy.
In this video, you’ll learn the special texts used to make any guy catch feelings for you, designed by psychologists and love experts.
Let’s be real:
Openers are very important. But you need to know how to take it to the next level.
Unfortunately, many girls miss out on amazing guys because they don’t know the RIGHT way to do it.
In fact, most women go through their whole life without learning these skills… So they never have the love life they dream of.
You deserve a better man in your life.
…And you CAN do better, just by learning these special texts.