The workplace is one of the most awkward places to flirt in.
You have to watch out for other co-workers gossiping behind your back…
You could get in trouble with the bosses…
And sometimes, the guy is already in a relationship outside of work…
But despite this, it is very common for people to catch feelings at work.
In fact, if you are interested in a guy at work…
…Then chances are, he is also thinking about you right now.
Here’s the thing:
Real chemistry can happen anywhere.
The more you resist it, the more it persists.
As dating coaches and experts in relationship dynamics, we’ve seen this situation time and time again.
We’ve formulated a method for you to subtly flirt with a guy at work, without any risk or awkwardness.
Today, we’ll show you exactly how to do this.
Be sure to read until the end – You will also learn some psychological tactics to target the male “emotional triggers”, and make any man fall in love with you.
In This Article:
How To Tell If A Guy At Work Is Interested
Before we get started, let’s look at some subtle signs he likes you at work:
- He talks to you more than other co-workers
- He talks to you about things unrelated to work
- You catch him looking in your direction from time to time
- His eyes seem to light up whenever you start a conversation with him
- He always seems to have something else he wants to say to you…
These signs apply for any co-worker – Even if he is married or in a relationship.
If you spot any of these signs, it probably means he already likes you but is hiding it…
But remember this:
You can always make a guy more interested by flirting with him – You just have to do it the right way.
The Complete Guide: How To Flirt At Work With A Guy You Like
Let us be clear:
You have to be very careful with office relationships.
That’s because one wrong move, and your job could be at stake.
Not only do you have to manage your bosses, but you also have to think about other co-workers who might embarrass both you and the guy.
That’s why it’s important to be very smart and subtle with the situation.
The good news is: We have a strategy to do exactly this.
Here it is:
The goal is to force him to make a move outside of work.
To do this, you have to first build attraction at work, with special “under the radar” techniques…
Then, you will create “windows” of opportunity for him, to invite him to make a move on you.
Keep reading, and we’ll show you exactly how to flirt at work the smart way, step-by-step.
Step 1: Spark His Interest In You
Flirting at work with a guy starts off the same way as normal flirting.
You have to start small, and pick things up gradually.
To do this, simply remember the golden rule:
Always keep things playful and casual.
This does a number of things:
First, a fun and casual vibe breaks the awkwardness of the co-worker relationship.
It will give positive emotions for both of you, which pulls you two closer.
But it also makes things a lot less suspicious…
Think about it:
Instead of “flirting and falling in love with each other”, your co-workers will think you are “just being friendly and having fun”.
But how do you actually do this?
Here are a few great ideas on how to subtly flirt with a guy at work:
1. Hold Eye Contact And Smile When You Talk To Him
One of the most powerful ways to flirt with a guy at work is simply to offer him good eye contact.
Whenever you talk to him, be sure to hold eye contact and smile.
This will show him you are happy to talk to him, which makes him feel good and encourages him to chat with you even more.
2. Joke And Rant About Work Topics
Everybody knows – Work can be really boring sometimes.
And deep down, he feels the same too.
That’s why it’s a great idea to joke about it from time to time.
If somebody is taking something too seriously, crack a joke about it to lighten the mood.
When he realizes you are happy to make fun of serious work topics, he will be drawn to you even more.
This is because you’re providing him positive energy, and a way to escape the boredom of work.
Over time, he will see you as a ray of sunshine in an otherwise boring workplace.
3. Talk About Topics Outside Of Work
Let’s face it:
Everybody looks forward to the weekend.
So here’s a trick that you can use on the male mind:
If you talk to him about things you’re both looking forward to outside of work…
…He will start to look forward to talking to you too!
It’s simple psychology.
Doing this also feels good to both of you. And the more pleasant moments you share, the closer you two become.
Step 2: Go Deeper And More Personal
At this point, he will start getting used to having a good time chatting with you…
This is great, but you cannot allow him to see you as “just another girl at work”.
Instead, you have to make things more personal.
This way, he will respect you as an individual, and treat you as someone special.
To do this, you have to turn your conversations towards deeper topics.
Here are a few ways to do exactly that:
1. Create Inside Jokes With Him
The first step in making your relationship with the guy at work more personal is to “team up” with him.
This is what we mean:
You need to plant the idea of you and him “together” inside his head.
Instead of “co-worker and co-worker”, he will start to see you two as a single unit, like “partners” or “teammates”.
A great way to do this is to create inside jokes with him.
These can be nicknames, puns and recurring themes that are unique to only you two.
When you are able to share these special experiences that nobody else has, he will start to value your relationship as something more than “just friends”…
It will also make him a lot more comfortable opening up and being with you.
2. Talk About Life Outside Of Work
Another way to break the “co-worker” frame is to talk about each other’s lives outside of work.
Put yourself in his shoes:
Work is only one part of his life.
Outside of it, he has many interests and hobbies that he loves…
And most of the time, he’d rather be doing these things than being at work.
So when you show an interest in his passions, he will feel really special and valued.
He will also be more curious about you and your own life outside of work.
Once you are able to talk about these deeper topics with each other, he will become more comfortable sharing his feelings with you.
He will begin to relate to you as a fellow human being, instead of just some colleague at the office.
3. Talk About Feelings Instead Of Facts
Here’s a great tip for flirting with any guy:
Attraction is emotional, not logical.
Think about it…
You can’t convince someone to like you.
He has to have feelings and emotions for you.
That’s why you should make your conversations about each other’s feelings instead of facts.
So when you start talking about a topic, chat about how you feel about it, and ask him the same.
Doing this will make your conversations a lot more personal.
Once he is able to relate to you emotionally, he will slowly catch deeper feelings for you…
Step 3: Find “Alone Time” With Him
If you want to get even closer to him, you need to take your interactions outside of the office, and away from other co-workers.
The truth is, there is always some social pressure from the rest of your colleagues.
This limits and restricts your relationship with the guy.
Now, here’s where a lot of girls make mistakes.
When you’re trying to get him alone with you, do not make it a big deal.
You don’t have to ask him out on a date. In fact, you should keep things casual and subtle at this stage.
It can be something simple, like spending the lunch break together, or teaming up on work-related assignments.
The important part is to make time throughout the day for you two to be away from everybody else.
Try not to take things too seriously. Keep chatting like you have done in Step 2.
By taking him away from the rest of your co-workers, he will feel a lot more comfortable opening up to you.
Give it some time, and he will slowly catch feelings for you.
Step 4: Offer Him Windows Of Opportunity Outside Of Work
By now, both you and the guy should be quite close, and feel comfortable being around one another…
…But unless you take things to the next level, you will remain “just friends”.
The trick is to allow him to make a move on you.
Here’s how to do this:
Start by casually mentioning your upcoming plans outside of work, and asking him about his own plans…
For example, you could briefly mention that you are going on a hike after work.
You should do this occasionally, and spread it over time.
Make sure to frame it in a casual way, as if you were just “checking in” on him out of interest.
If you do this enough times, a window of opportunity will appear for him.
In other words, he will suggest going out and doing something together, simply because it makes sense to.
For example, let’s say you are chatting about a new restaurant you’ve both heart of.
If you do this properly, he will suggest “We should check it out together”.
It’s important to be patient at this stage. But eventually, it WILL happen.
Remember: Even though you and the guy are still “friends”, the vibe of your relationship is now much more than that…
Step 5: Get Him To Chase You
Here’s the final step in flirting with someone at work…
You have to get him to chase you.
This means always staying a bit out of reach from him.
Think about this:
Imagine giving a piece of string to a cat.
It might play with it for a while, but lose interest very quickly…
Now imagine pulling it away from the cat.
The cat tries to grab it, but you pull away again…
It starts to chase it, but you keep pulling it around the room.
Soon, it becomes absolutely obsessed with it, trying to catch it forever.
The same happens to guys – You have to get him to chase you.
So when he suggests meeting outside of work, here’s what you do:
First, smile at the suggestion to show that you’re interested…
…But tell him that you’re busy this time.
Instead, suggest another time, or even another activity to do.
The goal is to make him change his plans for YOU.
Once you’ve set up the date, have fun! Feel free to enjoy a more romantic vibe outside of the workplace…
But make sure you don’t take things too far… yet!
The Next Step: How To Take His Heart And “Lock-In” His Feelings For You
By now, you should have learned how to flirt with a guy at work, and take things from casual to serious.
But if you want his heart, and to make him to think of you all the time, then keep reading…
You see, guys have very short attention spans.
If you follow the steps in this article, you will get him attracted…
But he might lose interest very quickly, especially if another girl comes along.
This is why you need to “lock-in” his feelings, and make him obsessed with you.
Believe it or not, it’s super easy.
As dating coaches, we’ve taught thousands of girls around the world to do this.
All you need to do is hit his psychological “emotional triggers” using some special words and phrases.
Here’s the best part about these techniques:
They work on any guy, no matter who you are.
This is because it’s based on the psychology behind the male mind.
Unfortunately, most girls don’t know about these secrets.
They watch time and time again as the guys they like ignore them, walking right by, and falling in love with other girls.
Don’t let your years go by like this!
If you’re ready to meet the man you’ve been dreaming of since you were a little girl…
To watch him fall crazy in love with you like you were the last girl he will ever love…
And to feel yourself in his loving arms in a huge, never-ending hug…
Then start using these techniques today, and watch how quickly men become obsessed with you.