Before you start reading, take a deep breath…
Ask yourself this question:
How do you REALLY feel right now?
Yes, breaking up is one of the worst feelings ever.
Not only is your heart completely crushed…
You also have to deal with being left all alone again.
The worst part?
It’s like the world doesn’t understand how bad it hurts deep inside…
Believe us, we understand.
As relationship coaches, we’ve helped thousands of girls around the world deal with their breakups.
Here’s one of the reason why it hurts so bad right now:
You’re hiding your true feelings for him.
For most couples, it’s normal to stop talking after a breakup.
But it’s also normal to want to text him when you miss him…
Today, we’ll show you exactly how to do that, the right way.
You’ll learn 5 special texts to send him that will restart conversation and make him think of you again.
We’ll also show you important secrets about male psychology, to help you decide if you should contact him.
Later in this article, you’ll learn how to target “emotional triggers” inside his head to spark his love for you again, and beg for you to come back to him (even if he hates you now or is seeing another girl).
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Should You Tell Him That You Miss Him?
First of all, you might be wondering:
“Should I tell my ex I miss him?”
The short answer is: NO. You should never tell your ex boyfriend that you miss him directly.
This makes you sound desperate, and turns him off completely.
Instead, you have to tell him you miss him without saying it directly.
There are special ways to tell him you miss him without sounding needy.
The key is to do it subtly and indirectly, by reminding him of the positive emotions shared in your relationship.
The Psychology Of The Male Mind After No Contact
Before you text your ex boyfriend again, it’s important to ignore him for a short time.
Most men start to miss you around 2 weeks after a breakup.
The first couple of days, his mind will be flooded with a rush of emotions…
…Emotions such as hate, fear, sadness, anger and regret.
During this time, he will be very unpredictable and prone to mood swings.
That’s why you should not text him during this time.
Instead, be patient and wait until 2 weeks after the breakup.
This is when most guys hit an “emotional plateau”.
He’s gone through a roller-coaster of feelings, and will be completely exhausted from it.
As a result, he will start to feel intense loneliness and emptiness (even if he pretends everything is OK).
This is the best time to text him and reconnect with him.
But you have to be extremely careful with this, or you will ruin your chances and lose him forever.
In the next section, you’ll learn exactly what to text your ex after no contact.
These texts are carefully designed to sound casual, but also make him miss you and think about you again.
The Top 5 Texts To Send Your Ex Boyfriend When You Miss Him
As we’ve mentioned above, the most important key for texting your ex boyfriend is to do it casually and indirectly.
There’s a balance you have to make:
On one hand, you will turn him off if you sound too needy or desperate.
If you show up in his inbox with a serious emotional outpouring, it will creep him out and he won’t want to talk to you again.
On the other hand, you have to engage him on an emotional level so he opens up to you again.
You need to make him feel comfortable about reconnecting with you and sharing his feelings with you again.
If you’re not sure how to do this, don’t worry. We’re here to help.
Here are 5 example texts so you know exactly what to text him:
1. Send Him A Simple But Funny Meme
Everybody knows: Guys don’t like to show their emotions.
During a breakup, they will try to play it cool and act like everything is fine.
But make no mistake – He is heartbroken too.
Right now, the best thing you can do is to offer him some positivity and make him smile.
The best way to do this is to send him a meme that you know he will enjoy.
Let us explain:
Laughter is an uncontrollable reaction.
When he sees something so funny that he can’t help but laugh, it breaks the emotional pattern of sadness.
This will be a huge relief from the heartache he’s been experiencing for so many days…
He will also link the burst of happiness to the thought of you.
However, it’s important to choose a simple meme that’s easy to share.
This is because you want to make it seem casual and normal…
…And that’s what sharing a funny meme is!
Try to choose a meme that is related to an inside joke you both shared, or something that you laughed about together.
This will make things a lot more personal, and make him think about your relationship again.
2. Send Him A Happy Memory
Here’s the shocking truth about breakups.
If you’re thinking of him, then chances are he is also thinking of you right now (even if he doesn’t want to admit it).
Think about it:
You’ve been together for a period of time.
During the relationship, you’ve shared countless feelings, memories and emotional moments with each other.
And in the end, you went through the same breakup together.
That’s why one of the best ways to make him miss you after breaking up is to remind him of the good times you had in the relationship.
Now, it’s very important to make this seem smooth and easygoing.
So here’s what you do.
Take a picture of something that reminds you of a happy memory you both had…
Then send it to him, but tell him that you just happened to stumble upon it by accident.
As long as you make it sound casual, this will put a smile on his face no matter what.
It will bring back the good feelings of the relationship, and he will start missing you like crazy.
3. Congratulate Him
This is a great thing to text your ex boyfriend if you have him on social media.
When guys break up, their first reaction is to try to escape their heartbreak.
Often, they will do this by trying to act like they’ve moved on, by picking up a new hobby or changing up their lifestyle.
Working out is a common example of this.
Now, here’s what he’s actually thinking:
Deep inside, he also wants to reach out to you, even if it feels like he hates you or wants to move on.
So here’s your chance to give him exactly what he wants.
Tell him you just happened to see his post, and leave him a heartfelt message.
“Hey, I saw your post at the gym. It’s good to see you doing well 😊”
The key is to keep everything positive, but short and sweet.
The great thing about this text is that it encourages him to reply, and catch up with you too.
Because you’re showing interest in how he’s doing, he will actively try to carry the conversation with you.
It’s a great way to start talking to him again.
4. Pretend You Saw Him Somewhere
If you don’t want to be too forward with your ex boyfriend, this is a good thing to text him.
Simply send him a text asking if he was out somewhere earlier today.
This does two things:
First, it is a completely casual text, and won’t make either of you feel awkward.
Also, it spurs his interest in what you’ve been up to since the breakup.
As we explained above, he is most likely also thinking about you right now and wondering how you’ve been doing…
The great thing about this text is it opens the door to a long conversation.
When he receives it, he will be wondering why you’re asking him this question…
His curiosity will help you carry the conversation further.
You can explain to him that you were out doing something interesting, and thought you saw him for a second.
It’s a chance to show him you’ve been doing fine, and update each other on how things are going.
5. Ask Him What’s Up (And Make Him Jealous)
If you’re feeling bold, you can reach out to him directly.
Simply send him a text, asking what he’s been up to lately.
Here’s the thing:
This text is the one he least expects from you.
When you suddenly text him after a period of no contact, it creates a psychological “pattern interrupt”.
This breaks his train of thought, and puts his focus completely on you.
In fact, his heart will immediately start racing once he sees your text in his inbox.
Now, the trick is in how you follow up this text.
No matter how he responds, you should reply by telling him some interesting and fun things you’ve done since the breakup, while making it sound casual.
This text does two things:
First, you’re hitting a “jealous switch” inside his mind…
But you’re also showing him that you’re happy to open up to him and start talking to him again.
Because of this, he is much more likely to keep talking to you.
BONUS: How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend To Want You Back (Using Psychology)
By now, you should have learned how to reach out to your ex boyfriend through text…
But unless you change his heart, he will not want you back.
The truth is, it’s not enough to start talking to him again.
You have to make him feel that DESIRE and ATTRACTION for you again.
Here’s the thing about the male mind:
A man has a very short attention span.
Right now, he still thinks about you…
But soon, these feelings will fade away.
And after a short time, he will fall in love with another girl and forget about you forever.
That’s why it’s important to act fast.
There are special “reverse psychology” techniques you can use to make him yours again.
These psychological techniques work by re-wiring his thoughts, and bringing back the powerful feelings of love into his heart by targeting “emotional triggers” inside his mind.
That’s why they work on ANY guy, even if he hates you or ignores you right now.
Unfortunately, most girls go about this the wrong way.
They try to convince their ex boyfriends to take them back, and hoping for a second chance…
But this ruins their chances completely.
Instead, if you follow the steps in this video, you will gain complete control over the situation.
In fact, your boyfriend will become obsessed with you and fall crazy in love with you all over again, begging YOU for a second chance.
So try these techniques out now, and see how quickly his mind changes: