10 Most Common Questions Guys Ask When Interested In You

You know what’s one of the hardest parts of being a woman?

Figuring out what a man is really thinking!

You find yourself wondering, and thoughts of him are flying through your mind all the time…

But you’re just not sure if he’s actually interested.

Don’t worry – We’re here to help!

As dating and relationship coaches, we’ve helped thousands of women around the world learn how to decode and read a man’s behaviors.

And after today’s article, you will be able to easily tell how he feels about you!

Here’s how it works:

There are 10 common questions that guys ask when interested in a girl.

And the more he asks them, the more likely that he has feelings for her that he’s hiding.

So when a guy asks you the same questions over and over again, you’ll know he sees you as more than “just friends”!

Later in this article, we’ll also give you some tips on how to drive him crazy obsessed with you, and force him to make a move on you.

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1. “How are you?” / “Are you OK?”

MEANING: “Hello, I want to talk with you”

There’s a reason why “How are you” is the most commonly used text from guys…

And it’s not what you think.

When a guy asks you how you are, he doesn’t actually want to hear what you’re doing…

He simply wants to talk to you.

When men ask “how are you”, they’re simply looking for an excuse to start a conversation with you.

Now if a man is strongly interested to you, he might go a step further:

He will be more in tuned with how you feel, and care about your wellbeing.

And if he sees that you might be having some trouble, he will ask “Are you OK?”

That’s when you know he’s not only interested in you – He definitely has some feelings for you!

2. “What have you been up to?” / “How was your weekend?”

MEANING: “I’ve been wondering about you”

When a guy is interested in you, he will also be curious about what you’re doing when you’re not around him.

That is why he asks you what you’ve been up to.

This is another common way guys use to start conversations with women they’re interested in.

If he is strongly interested in you, he might even ask “How was your weekend?”

By doing so, he is also trying to get a better idea of the people you spend time with, and any other guys you hang out with.

This is a common question for male coworkers to ask if he is interested in you. It shows that he is curious about your life outside of work.

(If you want to learn how to easily tell if a guy likes you from his behaviors and body language, grab a free copy of our guide here!)

3. “What do you like to do in your free time?”

MEANING: “I’m curious about you”

As a man becomes more interested in you, he will ask questions to get you know you better on a personal level.

This includes learning what you do in your spare time, and what you like to do for fun.

It is usually a sign that he wants to form a deeper connection with you

But it could also mean that he is thinking about asking you out.

By asking what you like to do in your free time, he will have a better idea of what to do when he asks you to hang out.

4. “Have you eaten?”

MEANING: “I’ve been thinking of asking you out”

This might sound a bit random, but it’s actually a common question for guys to ask when interested.

Here’s why:

People tend to be most active on their phones right after work or school – Or in other words, before dinner time.

And because of this, guys will naturally ask you “Have you eaten?” if he is interested.

On one level, he is just reaching out and starting a conversation…

But he may also be trying to asking you out to dinner in a casual way.

This is especially true if he does so in person, instead of by text.

5. “What were you like growing up?”

MEANING: “I want to become closer to you”

Everybody knows: Your childhood and upbringing are very personal topics.

So if he’s asking you about them, there’s a good chance he is interested in getting to know you on a deeper level.

If you want to get him hooked, this is your chance to do so:

Give him some vague answers, and leave out the details.

For example, you could say:

“I loved playing in the school band, it was one of my favorite pastimes.”

This type of answer is great because it makes him even more curious about you.

He will start to wonder: “She sounds talented, I wonder what she played?” Or “I bet she was popular at school. Did she get a lot of guys chasing her around?”

Inside his mind, he is beginning to form an image of what you were like as a little girl.

And the more he wonders and fantasizes about you, the more obsessed he will become!

(Grab a free copy of our “Read A Man’s Mind” guide here to learn how to decode a guy’s behavior and figure out if he likes you!)

6. “What are you most passionate about?”

MEANING: “I want to know what makes you excited”

As we’ve already discussed, when a guy asks you personal questions, he is most likely interested in you and is trying to get to know you better on a deeper level.

If he asks “What are you most passionate about”, he is trying to find out what makes you excited and drives you in life.

By doing so, he is showing you that he is genuinely interested in you as a person.

He can also appear more relatable by finding hobbies and interests that he may have in common with you.

It’s a sign that he is hooked on you, and is actively trying to get closer to you.

7. “How do I look?”

MEANING: “I care about how you see me”

Have you ever wondered what it means to have a guy truly hooked on you?

You see, it’s one thing for a man to be interested…

But it’s another thing to have him thinking about you non-stop.

If a guy asks your opinion on his appearance, it shows you that he values how you see him.

And that is a sure sign that he has been secretly thinking about you.

Think about it this way:

The more a man is interested in you, the more he cares about your opinion and thoughts.

So when a guy asks for your opinion, you know he is starting to become hooked on you, and is interested in you on a deep level.

8. “What do you see in me?”

MEANING: “I hope you like me”

By now, you’ve probably realized that by asking you these questions, he is actually trying to say something about how he sees you, and what sort of relationship he hopes to have with you.

When a guy asks “What do you see in me”, he already has an answer in mind:

He hopes that you see him as an amazing guy, in the same way that he sees you.

That being said, you should definitely NOT tell him what he wants to hear!

Instead, this is a great chance to tease him and play with his heart a little bit.

So give him a vague answer instead, and turn the tables on him. Say “Good question, why do you ask?” or “You’re good. What do you think of me?”

This puts the spotlight directly on him – His reaction will tell you everything!

After you say this, sit back and watch as he becomes even more obsessed with you.

(For more tips on understanding a man’s mind and decoding his behaviors, check out our free guide now!)

9. “What are you doing tonight?”

MEANING: “I want to take you out on a date…”

We all know guys like to play it cool, and don’t tend to show their emotions…

But we girls can see right through it – They get anxious too sometimes!

Nowadays, it’s rare that a guy directly asks you out.

But when a guy asks what are you doing tonight, he is really just telling you he wants to take you out on a date, but he’s nervous about it

Here’s the important thing:

Even if you tell him that you’re free that evening, he might not follow through and ask you out.

If he was nervous to begin with, he might just back down and dismiss the whole thing by saying “I was just wondering…”

So if you want to help him out and encourage him to ask you out, you can make things easier for him.

For example, reply him with “Oh I’m free tonight. Did you want to do something together?” And if you’re speaking in person, be sure to answer with a big smile on your face.

This will make it very easy for him to follow through while sounding casual and avoiding any awkwardness…

And at the end of the day, you both get what you want!

10. “Are you seeing anyone?”

MEANING: “I like you, and we should be together”

Finally, this is one of the strongest signs that a guy is interested in you.

When a guy asks about your love life, you can be certain that he wants to be more than “just friends”.

The truth is, a man’s mind works very differently from ours.

While us girls like to chat about our relationships with each other, guys are a lot more quiet and reserved about this.

If a straight man just saw you as “a friend”, it is highly unlikely that he would ask you about this stuff.

But if a guy asks about your past relationship, the type of guys you like, or whether you have a boyfriend right now, you can be sure that he has feelings for you that he can’t hold back anymore!

BONUS: Read Any Man’s Mind (And Know How He Feels About You)

By now, you’ve learned how to easily spot if a man is interested from these 10 common questions.

But here’s the thing most girls never realize:

It’s one thing for a man to be interested in you…

But it’s another thing for him to be obsessed and full of desire for you.

As international dating and relationship coaches, we’ve helped thousands of women meet, attract and keep the men they’ve always been dreaming of.

So if you want to know the fastest and easiest way to go from meeting a man to making him get on his knees and beg for a chance at your heart, pay attention:

By looking for a few simple clues in his words and body language, you can easily read any man’s mind, and know how he TRULY feels about you deep inside.

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Here’s the thing though:

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