Do you remember what it felt like when your husband still loved you?
He looked deep into your eyes, and you can see the honesty in them…
He held you in his arms and would never let you go…
You were the only woman in his heart…
But if you’re reading this, that’s all gone now.
So what happened?
When you first find out your husband is cheating on you, it feels like you’ve been stabbed in the heart.
As professional relationship coaches, we completely understand.
For you, this is a time of confusion and emotional turmoil.
No loving wife should ever have to suffer this pain.
And you should not let the other woman win.
Unfortunately, this is also when women make key mistakes that ruin the chances of fixing the relationship.
The truth is, your marriage is falling apart quickly…
Every little thing you do matters, so you must act carefully, even if you feel devastated and helpless.
Today, we’ll show you exactly how to get rid of the other woman for good.
You’ll learn the 5 Key Steps you have to do to make him forget about the other woman, and come back to you with his true love and attention.
We’ll also give you techniques on how to “lock-in” his love and devotion, so he never leaves you again.
Not all women are strong enough to handle the truth.
But if your husband cheated on you and you still love him, you should follow these steps to win back your husband’s heart.
In This Article:
Step 1: Make Your Feelings Clear To Him
Right now, you’re probably not sure what to say to your cheating husband.
Many women worry over how to confront their husband, and can’t find the right words…
But the solution is actually quite simple.
The first step to winning your husband back from the other woman is to get clarity.
Right now, we have to get rid of that feeling of suffocation and anxiety that’s been following you all the time.
The reason you’re feeling that way is because you have been holding in your feelings.
So here’s what you do:
First, make them clear to yourself.
Sit down in a quiet spot, and write down on a piece of paper the 5 strongest emotions you feel when you think of your husband cheating behind your back.
Be completely honest with yourself, and reflect on what thoughts have been going through your head.
Take some time to do this, because the next step can be a bit scary…
If you want to stop a cheating husband in his tracks, you must confront him directly and suddenly.
Pick an evening when you’re both together, and announce to him “We need to have a talk right now.”
The goal of this is not to accuse him or the other woman, or to find fault in the affair.
Instead, you’re simply going to be honest, and make your feelings clear to him.
If you haven’t made it clear that you know he’s been cheating, now is the time. Be direct and blunt about it.
Let him know about all those emotions of pain and heartache you feel. Open up to him about how you miss the days when he truly loved you, and the good times you both had.
The reason for this talk is to put him on the spot.
We want to to trigger the strong emotions of guilt, shame, regret and sorrow inside him, by showing him just how badly he has hurt you.
These strong emotions will serve as the turning point in stopping his affair, making him leave the other woman.
Don’t be afraid to let it all out. Let your feelings pour out and leave nothing behind.
However, do not fall into the trap of negotiation.
Your husband might try to reason with you, or talk you out of your sadness. Do not let him do this.
Instead, end the talk after you’ve expressed all your feelings.
Tell him “that’s all I wanted you to know”, and leave him alone to think about his actions.
Step 2: Put Him In An Emotional Vacuum
For most women we’ve coached, this talk can be exhausting and very emotional for both the husband and the wife.
For the next few days, you’re going to create an “emotional vacuum”.
The idea is simple. You are going to be emotionally unresponsive to him.
This doesn’t mean ignoring him or pretending he’s not there. But you should not feed his emotional needs.
Your husband will be stuck with the feelings of guilt and regret, and will try to relieve this by talking to you.
However, now is not the time for this.
He needs to reflect on his actions, so tell him “I don’t want to talk about this right now” or “We can talk about this later”.
You’re going to do this for a couple of days. In the meantime, the emotional release you experienced in Step 1 should leave you feeling more peaceful.
Seize this opportunity to enjoy the calm. Take time for yourself, and take good care of your own body and mind.
Another great idea is to leave the house completely for a few days. Tell him gently and without anger: “I need to take some time for myself, I’ll be back in a few days.”
Now you might be wondering: Is this a good idea?
Is he going to cheat while I’m gone?
This highlights the biggest mistake most women make when trying to stop their husbands from cheating.
They get caught up in the emotions, and obsess over their husbands’ every move…
They try to please their husbands and keep him around all the time…
When your entire world revolves around stopping him from cheating, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
If you’re going to compete with the other woman, you have to play it smart, to avoid playing a losing game.
There are many things that only you can provide to your husband. These include comfort, security, stability, and emotional closeness.
When your husband runs off with the other woman, he is only looking for escapism and sexual gratification.
There’s no point in competing with her over this.
Instead, the “emotional vacuum” shows him the most important things he will lose if he keeps cheating on you.
This, combined with the pressure of being put on the spot in Step 1, will get him thinking very hard about you…
Step 3: Be His Wife, Not His Fling
After a couple of days, you will have to end the “vacuum” and come back to normal life.
If you’ve done everything correctly, your husband will be acting a bit different.
Now, you can respond to his emotional advances. Allow him to touch you again, and welcome his love.
During all this, you have to bear in mind your unique gifts as a wife.
You provide him with the comfort, security and closeness only a spouse can give.
Focus on the depth of your feelings for each other.
Be the one person in the world he can trust and open up completely to.
It can also be a good idea to hold off sex for a few more days. Remember: You are his wife, not his fling.
Men are psychologically hardwired to “chase” a loved one, so make him appreciate the depth of your relationship before satisfying him.
Step 4: Dealing With The Other Woman
In the next few weeks, you might still be worrying about the other woman in your husband’s life.
You might have already confronted her about the affair.
In any case, you have to be careful going forward when dealing with her.
A lot of women make the mistake of blaming the other woman, or trying to make the other woman suffer.
Ironically, this is when the other woman wins.
Your emotional health is your greatest resource. The more negativity you spend on her, the more emotions you waste.
Instead, focus on your one goal: Winning your husband back and saving your marriage.
Your mind might drift off and wonder who to put blame on for your husband’s cheating…
This only takes your focus off the goal.
If you’ve been keeping an eye on her, now is the time to let that go. Don’t waste your time on her.
Put your emotions and focus on your marriage – Just you and your husband.
Once you remove the other woman from the frame of focus, your husband will stop thinking of her too.
Step 5: Be Patient And Do Not Give Up
Once the cheating has stopped, it’s time for the recovery phase.
Like it or not, cheating usually happens when a marriage is already falling apart.
Fixing this marriage is going to take a long time, even after the affair stops.
The most important thing at this stage is patience and communication.
Do not let any feelings get trapped inside you again. Always express them to your husband.
Slowly, you and your husband will be able to enjoy your marriage once again, just like you did in the beginning.
BONUS: How To “Lock In” Your Husband’s Devotion
It is very traumatic knowing your husband was with someone else.
Perhaps you are still hounded by your thoughts, still unsure if your husband has stopped cheating…
We understand. And we’ve coached thousands of women to win back their husbands.
Think about this for a second:
What was it like when you and your husband first got together?
What was it like when his love for you was the strongest…
When he was warm, sweet and caring every single day…
When he held you so tight in his arms like you were the only woman in his world…
As a married couple, you are probably used to hearing him say “I love you”.
But words are just words.
Does he even mean it anymore?
True love is a feeling that cannot be faked.
If he truly and honestly loved you again like he did at the start, there’s no way he will ever leave.
So you have to bring that back as soon as possible.
Here’s the key:
If love is an emotion, you have to make him feel it from the inside.
There are special words and phrases you should use to target certain “emotional triggers” inside his head.
These triggers are hardwired into the male mind, and bring back the intense feelings of young love using psychology.
(PS: Brad is an international marriage coach, with a success rate of over 90%)
The sad truth is: Most marriages are doomed to fail.
This is what happens when you don’t understand each other.
But once you learn the TRUTH about the way men think about long-term relationships, you will be able to “lock in” his devotion.
You have a choice:
Handle your marriage the smart way, win back the heart of the man you love, and have him run back to you and never let you go again…
…Or see him leave you alone forever for the other woman as your marriage falls apart.
So start using these techniques and phrases bring back his love now, and see for yourself how quickly he comes back to you.