When A Man Pulls Away In A Long Distance Relationship

Relationships can be a healthy, beautiful part of one’s life. After all, we all want to be loved, cared for, and important to someone.

In the arms of someone you love, you experience a tenderness and warmth that is unlike any other emotion experienced.

But let’s face it – Relationships are a lot of hard work, too.

And that’s especially true with long distance relationships.

The truth is: Maintaining a good relationship when you are physically close together is hard enough. But it’s even more difficult when you are separated by distance.

He can avoid you whenever he wants, do all sorts of things behind your back, and the only ways of reaching him are by phone, text, or video call.

Worst of all: This distance naturally leads to his feelings for you fading away. And that’s why most long distance relationships will eventually break down.

So what can you do about it? Is your long distance relationship doomed to fail?

As relationship coaches, we’ve helped thousands of women around the world manage their long distance relationships.

Fortunately, there are several things you can do to keep it healthy, thriving, and loving on both sides.

So if you find that your long distance boyfriend is pulling away, pay close attention to this article.

You’ll learn the real reasons WHY men pull away in long distance relationships, as well as exactly what to do if he does.

Later in this article, we’ll also show you a way of building a deep emotional connection with him that will keep him devoted to you no matter the distance, and will never even think about leaving you.

Before You Continue…

Does he REALLY like you? Take this quick quiz to find out! Find out what he REALLY thinks, and how strong his feelings for you are. Start the quiz now!

Why Do Men Pull Away In A Long Distance Relationship? The 3 Most Common Reasons

Before we dive into what to do when your long distance boyfriend pulls away, let’s take a look at why he pulls away in the first place.

You see, it’s difficult enough to get a guy to express his true feelings to you…

And it’s even harder to do it long distance!

But once you understand the true reasons behind why he’s pulling away, it will be a lot easier to heal your bond and get him hooked again.

Below are the 3 most common reasons why guys pull away during long distance.

Your boyfriend could be pulling away due to one of these reasons, or any combination of them at the same time.

So read them carefully, and take a close look at his behaviors to see if any of them apply to him.

1. His Feelings For You Have Changed

It may be painful for you to hear, but it’s true:

No matter how much you love each other, your long distance man may eventually begin to lose feelings for you.

Perhaps he just needs someone to be physically present with him. Or maybe the distance is making him feel so lonely that he can’t stand it anymore.

Either way, the distance makes it especially easy for him to lose feelings for you.

And when he does, that’s when he starts pulling away.

It can hurt a lot to realize this. And many girls will start overreacting and trying all sorts of things to pull him back.

But in most cases, this just ends up making things worse, driving him further and further away.

So stay calm, and keep reading to find out exactly what to do

2. There Are Other Girls In His Life

It’s not easy for someone to stay completely committed during long distance. And like it or not, you will both develop separate social circles and lead separate lives…

And eventually, he may start to find himself drawn to other girls as well.

He might still have feelings for you. But these could be slowly fading, as his attention and attraction are drawn towards the girls who are physically there with him.

Once again, it’s very easy to become overwhelmed with jealousy and anger when you find that he’s drawn towards other girls.

But it’s very important for you to stay calm and take the correct steps before it gets to a point of no return.

More on this later…

3. He’s Emotionally Overwhelmed

Long distance relationships require a lot of effort and work on both sides, and can take a huge emotional toll on someone.

And if he becomes overwhelmed by these emotions, that’s when he’ll start to pull away from you.

Here’s a common scenario:

You start to feel he’s drifting away, and paying less and less attention to you.

It’s very natural for you to feel hurt by this, and so you try to get his attention back. But this only makes him feel restricted and controlled.

So he pulls away from you, trying to find a way out of this.

Obviously, this is a very delicate situation. And one wrong move could damage things to the point of no repair.

That’s why you need to take the right steps and manage the situation carefully…

The 5 Things You Should Do When A Man Pulls Away In A Long Distance Relationship

Now that you know the most likely causes of him pulling away, it’s time to take a look at the steps you should take.

Here’s the key you have to remember:

It’s all about striking a balance between keeping him committed, and letting him have his freedom.

A man’s sense of freedom is very important to him. And he doesn’t want to feel like his life is being controlled by someone who is thousands of miles away from him.

At the same time, you do want him to remain devoted and in love with you.

With all that said, here are the 5 things you should do when a man pulls away from you in a long distance relationship:

1. Give Him Space

Long distance relationships are often filled with stress and worry.

Why? Because you are trusting someone with your heart.

We’ve seen this time and time again. Things seem to be going fine, until you feel a change in his vibe and behavior.

Your attitude, as far as you’re concerned, hasn’t changed. You still love him with all your heart, and you think about him all the time.

Your boyfriend, on the other hand, seems to be slowly losing interest, and isn’t reaching out as often anymore.

If you’re like most women, one of the first thoughts that will pop into your head is “What happened??”

Surely, it must have been something that caused him to pull away, right? We all want to know the answer because we are eager to fix the problem.

And so we start naturally calling and texting him, trying to figure out what went wrong, and thinking that you need to be more “present” in his life…

But this ends up turning him off and pushing him further away! After all, men don’t like it when girls get needy or pushy.

So what’s the answer? It’s simple:

Give him space.

When we’re at risk of being hurt, we tend to try to cling to someone. But often, it is this clinginess that drives them away.

Instead, don’t be afraid of letting go and giving him some space.

Remember: He’s dealing with a lot of stress and pressure from the long distance relationship too.

When you give him space, he can “breathe” on an emotional level, and process his feelings better.

And when you do talk, he will be a lot more ready and willing to give you his fullest attention.

(To learn how to connect with your boyfriend on a deep emotional level, even if you’re far apart, click here!)

2. Practice Self-Reflection

When a man pulls away, the most common reaction from girls is to start worrying, doubting, and second-guessing everything.

Your mind will naturally be filled with thoughts like “Was it something I did? How can I fix this?”

The truth is: It might not be anything that you did.

Perhaps pulling away is his way of dealing with his emotions. Or maybe it’s just a busy phase that he’s going through.

In any case, the WRONG thing to do is to start overthinking and worrying!

Knowing this, it’s worthwhile to take some time and think about why you reacted in such an insecure and panicked way.

Because more often than not, it is this sort of behavior that pushes men away further, and causes long distance relationships to collapse.

So take a bit of time, and ask yourself the following questions:

“What does my behavior say about my beliefs and self-esteem?”

“What am I overthinking about my long distance boyfriend?”

“How are these insecurities hurting my relationship?”

Once you do this, not only will you resolve some of the tension between you and your boyfriend, but you will also start getting rid of your own worries and insecurities.

And trust us: Even though you are separated physically, your boyfriend will notice the improvement and be drawn to you again.

3. Ask And Clarify Any Doubts With Him

Here’s one of the most common problems women run into in long distance relationships:

It’s the problem of uncertainty.

Because you’re so far apart, it is natural to become insecure about the relationship.

Aside from the occasional video call and text message, you’re essentially leading separate lives.

And because of this, there’s no way of knowing what he’s really doing and who he’s hanging out thousands of miles away.

This creates the perfect breeding ground for fear, mistrust, and insecurity to grow. And it almost always leads to a bitter ending.

No matter how close you were to begin with, there will eventually be doubts in your head that surface and keep you up at night.

And if you don’t address these worries head-on, they will only grow stronger and damage your emotional connection with him.

At the end of the day, there is no way for you to know every aspect of his life in a long distance relationship.

Any guess or assumption that you make about the relationship is just a guess. And it could all be completely wrong!

With this lack of information, it’s easy to become frustrated and worried, which causes you to start demanding things like: “Tell me what you’re doing tonight” or “Why haven’t you called me for days?”

It’s perfectly normal: You want the reassurance that everything’s going to be okay and that he still loves you back…

But the right way to get this reassurance is not to become imposing or overbearing.

If you have uncertainties about your relationship, it’s best to just open up and ask your boyfriend about them.

After all, honesty is the key to a healthy relationship. And you can’t expect your boyfriend to be open and honest about his life if you’re keeping your doubts and insecurities hidden from him.

Once you start demonstrating this honesty by voicing your concerns instead of keeping them in, he will reciprocate by opening up to you too.

It’s a long process. But get this right, and you’ll maintain a healthy and loving long distance relationship with him.

(Want to learn how to create a deep emotional connection with any man? Check out our handy guide here!)

4. Communicate Without Judging Or Demanding

When we see our partners distance themselves from us, our immediate reaction is either to take it personally, or to put the blame on them.

But more often than not, neither is the case.

Instead, the problem could be rooted in a lack of communication. And without proper communication, any relationship will fall apart.

As we’ve mentioned above, it is very important for you to express your feelings and voice any concerns you may have with your boyfriend.

But it is just as important to do so in a way that is not judgmental or demanding.

For example, if you wanted your boyfriend to call you more often, don’t do this by issuing demands and setting up harsh restrictions.

Instead, express your feelings honestly, and do so in a way that doesn’t make him feel like he’s being controlled.

Which one sounds better to you:

“Why don’t we talk as often anymore? I want to call you this Saturday evening.”

Or…

“It makes me sad that we don’t talk as often as before. I really miss you. Do you have time to chat this weekend?”

By expressing yourself honestly, you show him that you have the best intentions in your heart. He can see that you just want to be closer to him, and not to control him or be demanding.

So if you’re ever unsure about how to communicate with your boyfriend during long distance, just begin by opening up your heart and letting him know how much you care about him.

It will melt his heart, and he will do the same for you.

(For more ideas to melt a man’s heart and secure his devotion to you forever, check out our free guide here!)

5. Reserve Time For Each Other Every Week

As we’ve mentioned above, couples will lead largely separate lives during a long distance relationship.

And this is how many couples naturally drift apart.

That’s why it’s crucial to reserve some time for each other every week, no matter how busy your schedules become.

It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. Just a quick, heartfelt video call for half an hour can do wonders for your relationship.

You don’t have to do this too often either. After all, it is the quality of your time together, and not the quantity or amount of time, that matters the most.

The important thing is that during this call, you drop everything else in your life and put your complete attention on your partner.

This is a very powerful way to remind each other how special your relationship is, and how important you are to one another.

It also puts your priorities in perspective: Even though it may be easy to get caught up in work and social commitments, you should still reserve some time for your loved one.

So instead of texting him non-stop and trying to stay connected to him 24/7, try creating these regular calls with each other.

He will miss you a lot more this way, and be much more eager to catch up and open up his heart to you.

How To Keep Any Man Deeply Devoted To You, No Matter The Distance

Let’s be honest here:

Imagine if your boyfriend was truly devoted to you, to the point that you are forever the most important person in his heart…

Would you still have to worry about him pulling away?

Would you have any doubts if he still loves and cares about you?

Of course not! In fact, he would be the one constantly chasing you, and thinking about you non-stop while he’s half the world away.

As international relationship experts, we’ve already helped hundreds of women achieve this in their long distance relationships.

It all comes down to establishing a strong emotional bond deep inside his mind that won’t be broken even if you are far apart physically.

Today, we want to help you do the same with your man.

So to get you started, we’ve prepared a handy guide on creating this sort of connection with any man, and “lock-in” his devotion to you for good.

FREE GUIDE: Make Him Yours FOREVER!

Use these easy techniques to “lock-in” a man’s commitment to you, and to make him love you FOREVER!

Once you start using the simple tips included, you will start to build a deep connection with him that causes him to put you first in his life.

You will be the first person he thinks of in the morning, the last person he thinks of at night, and forever the most special girl in his world.

And he will remain devote himself fully and completely to you, dreaming non-stop about the day you will be together again.

Grab your free copy of our guide, and try out the tips inside. You’ll be surprised at how well they work!

FREE GUIDE: Make Him Yours FOREVER!

Use these easy techniques to “lock-in” a man’s commitment to you, and to make him love you FOREVER!


More FlirtSavvy Articles

What To Text A Grieving Boyfriend

Something needs to be spoken. This is, and will continue to be, the most important thing in their lives. So, even if it makes you uncomfortable, simply say something. You don’t need to know exactly what to say. For someone who is mourning, there are no ideal words of comfort. Death, in actuality, is a difficult experience. It’s a calamity. Your words won’t make everything better, so don’t wait until you’re sure what to say. Accept your inadequacy while continuing…

Read More

What To Write In A Letter To Your Boyfriend

Being separated from you is proving to be more difficult than I had anticipated. Everywhere I look, I see reminders of you, and they make me long to be with you again. I adore you and am completely devoted to you. Every moment we spend together is precious to me, and I love you even more while we are away. It’s as though you’re right here with me while I write this letter tonight. Your hand on my shoulder, your…

Read More

When You Have Nothing To Talk About With Your Boyfriend

We’ve all been guilty of holding a conversation half-heartedly while browsing through our phones. However, if this becomes a habit, your partner will likely feel disregarded and unimportant, and will be less willing to start contacts in the future. These active listening skills can assist you in being present with your partner and making them feel heard: Maintain eye contact – This demonstrates that you are paying attention to your partner and are interested in what they have to say.Minimal…

Read More

Where Can I Find A Boyfriend

This is yet another way to find someone who shares your ideals. Choose a volunteer opportunity that you are passionate about, such as feeding the homeless, reading to children, or cleaning up the beach, and commit to it on a regular basis. Again, this isn’t about spotting other hair-net-clad volunteers as you pour out soup; it’s about doing something that makes you happy with other people who share your enthusiasm. Because you’re assisting others, it shifts your emphasis away from…

Read More

Why Am I Always Mad At My Boyfriend

One of the most crucial steps in managing anger is identifying the source of it. Injustice, stress, financial troubles, family or personal problems, traumatic occurrences, or feeling unheard or unappreciated are all common causes of rage. Anger can be triggered by physiological processes such as hunger, chronic pain, fear, or terror for no apparent cause. Anger can also be a sign of a mental illness such bipolar disease, mood disorders, or eurosis. Hormonal imbalances can also cause it, such as…

Read More

Why Did I Dream About Cheating On My Boyfriend

Fortunately, adultery dreams are rarely about infidelity; instead, they “usually reflect something else,” according to Irwin. Take a look at the seven most typical cheating dreams on the list below, but remember to take everything with a grain of salt. After all, our wildest dreams can sometimes just signify that we ate too much three-alarm chili before bed. Dreams where you’re cheating on your significant other In your dreams, why were you putting the moves on someone else? Dreams in…

Read More