He Has To Lose You To Realize He Needs You: Here’s Why

As women, one of the painful experiences we can have is when the man we love takes us for granted.

Maybe it’s a boyfriend who’s spending less and less time with you, and doesn’t seem to find you attractive anymore…

Or perhaps it’s an ex who once told you he loved you, but has now decided to ignore you completely.

Either way, it hurts. And you’re left feeling cold, unwanted and unloved, wondering to yourself: “What happened?” and “Did I do something wrong?”

Trust us, we understand how it feels.

In fact, we’ve coached thousands of women around the world, and we’ve seen this happen time and time again.

So if you’ve ever felt taken for granted by a man, or you’re feeling neglected right now, pay close attention to this article.

We’re going to expose some powerful truths about how a man’s heart works, and why he has to lose you before he realizes he needs you.

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The Top 10 Reasons Why He Has To Lose You To Realize He Needs You


You may have heard of the advice: “Walk away to get him back”

Well, it works…

But have you ever thought about why this is the case?

It’s because he needs to feel that rush of loneliness and regret before he truly sees how important you are to him, and how much he loves you.

So if you’re stressed or worried about drifting apart from the man you love, whether he’s your boyfriend or your ex, read this article carefully.

Here are the top reasons why he has to lose you before he realizes he needs you:

1. He Will Miss Your Attention

Most girls have been in this situation:

You invested all of your attention and emotion into your man…

But he just seems to take it all for granted.

It’s very disappointing. But what most girls don’t know is that you can take advantage of this situation and turn the tables on him.

Here’s how:

By quickly withdrawing your attention from him, you will create an “emotional vacuum”.

Because he’s so used to having you, he will suddenly notice that he’s lost your attention, and feel a grave emptiness inside his heart.

And after a while, he will realize how important you are to him.

So step back, and think about all the ways that you’re giving him attention.

You might be doing so in a variety of ways, such as constant phone calls, devoting unlimited time to him, or trying all sorts of things to keep him happy.

Once he loses all of these things that you’re currently giving him, he will feel the impact. And the more he tries to ignore it, the more it will fuel his desire and affection for you.

2. He Won’t Be Used To Being Alone

He might not admit it, but being alone is a reality that no man wants to face.

This fear is a powerful force. It can drive a man to cling to any relationship and do anything just to avoid it.

Used correctly, this can be used as a positive strategy to get your man to chase you again.

Once a man loses you, he will start to realize all the little ways in which you made his life better.

This usually takes a while to happen. And over time, he will generally forget about you and move on…

But if you manage to highlight these feelings of loneliness inside his mind, you can also make them build up and grow inside him, up to the point where he simply cannot hold them in anymore.

That’s why he has to lose you first – The sudden coldness and loneliness will shock him into realizing that he loves you.

(Click here to learn exactly how to make any man crave you non-stop and devote himself to you completely!)

3. His True Feelings For You Will Be Rekindled

We all know that the typical man likes to play it cool and keep his emotions hidden.

He would generally be wary of showing his true feelings for a woman, out of pride or fear of appearing vulnerable.

Nonetheless, under the guise of a large ego, he may have a genuine love for you.

The funny thing is: He may not be aware of it himself!

See, we all get carried away with work and commitments sometimes. And it can be easy to lose touch of your feelings this way.

This is especially true for men.

After a while, it is normal for his feelings to gradually fade because nothing is keeping them alive.

But once he loses you, these feelings are rekindled.

He will realize how special you are to him, and remember why he fell in love with you in the first place.

Now obviously, it’s not a wise idea to simply “walk away” and hope that he comes begging for you back.

In fact, there’s a good chance that his love will simply fade away if you do that carelessly.

But if you press the right “buttons” in his heart, these feelings will come rushing back and he will be filled with an uncontrollable desire to devote himself to you.

(To learn how to trigger these feelings of deep desire and devotion in a man, check out our handy guide here!)

4. He Will Realize Your True Value

You’ve probably heard the saying: “You don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone…”

Well, the same goes for lovers.

In relationships, it’s easy to get so comfortable with someone to the point that being with them is merely “normal”…

And only after that person is no longer available does it become apparent to you how special they are.

If you suspect your man is not 100% invested in you, he might have to lose you to truly realize your importance to him.

As we’ve mentioned above, it’s not easy to get men to act honestly according to their emotions.

So if you really to wake up his heart, you need the help of two of the most powerful emotions in the world:

Loss and regret.

He might not admit it, but the reason why he fell in love with you in the first place was that you bought so much joy and happiness into his life.

Now that you’re gone, all of this positivity is replaced by loss and regret.

It’s this sort of shock that will finally make him realize your true value. And once he does, it will be very hard for him to forget!

5. He Will Finally Be Able To Relate To Your Feelings

If you’re like most women, chances are you’ve tried to talk to your man about how you’re not getting the love and attention you need from him.

And believe us: We know how frustrating it can be when he just doesn’t seem to be listening.

But here’s the truth about men:

They are much more likely to respond to actions than to mere spoken words.

In other words, it’s very hard to convince him to change how he feels about you using words. But actions will motivate him a lot more.

Because of this, losing you for a while may just prompt him to think about how he’s been treating you, and to make an effort to relate to your feelings.

When your man takes you for granted, you probably feel unwanted, helpless and ignored all at the same time.

And it’s very unfair to you that he doesn’t take the time to understand how you feel, and to connect with you on a deeper level.

Sometimes, he will have to lose you in order to truly reflect and realize how his actions have made you feel.

And once he does this, his love for you will be reignited and begin to burn brighter than ever.

(Want to learn more ways to make him feel a desperate desire and passion for you again? Check out our handy guide here!)

6. He Will Learn From His Mistakes

awkward guy

Just like us, men are filled with thoughts when they lose someone they love.

Not only will he realize his mistakes, but he will also begin to reconsider his actions, retrace his steps in his head, change his behavior and make amends.

All the while, his heart will be full of helpless regret and loneliness.

This is because losing you will force him to see and accept the truth about himself – Taking you for granted was a huge mistake that he should never have made.

If you make the right moves, he might even come running back to you, desperately pleading you to take him back into your life.

It’s almost as if he would be willing to pay a “toll” or reach an “agreement” with the universe just to be able to keep you by his side.

And when all is said and done, he will never dare to neglect or mistreat you ever again!

7. He Will Think About The Memories You Share

When a man loses a woman, he will be left alone with his thoughts.

He might try to take his mind off them with friends and other distractions. But at the end of the day, he knows that someone is missing from his life.

This is why he’s going to think a lot about you, and especially about the memories you shared together.

These thoughts will replay non-stop inside his head, and he simply won’t be able to get you out of his mind.

Like it or not, you were the most important part of his life for a while.

And deep down, he will always have this feeling of emptiness whenever he thinks about you, because that part of his heart will be empty forever, no matter how much he tries to fill it with something else.

This is when he realizes just how special your relationship was. And if you shared a deep emotional bond, he will try desperately to rescue it.

(Be sure to check out our free guide to learn the “shortcut” to forming a deep emotional connection with any man!)

8. He Realizes That You’re The Prize

It should come as no surprise, but men are strongly motivated by their egos.

That’s why a man will chase his crush so passionately at first, because he sees her as a prize.

And when he “wins” her, his ego also gets a huge boost because in his mind, it’s a little victory that he can “claim” in front of other men.

It’s super silly, but that’s how it works!

Now, a man’s attention span is generally quite short. So after a while, it can be easy for him to start taking you for granted and lose interest in you.

But when a man feels like he’s lost you, he will be reminded that you are the “prize”.

And he will do anything to win you back, even if it means swallowing his pride and making himself vulnerable to you.

It’s because winning you back is his way of reclaiming his ego and showing the world that he’s still a “man”.

So if you want to rekindle a deep and powerful desire for you inside his heart, make sure to take advantage of this!

9. You Take Control Away From Him

When a man neglects you, plays games with you, or simply just takes you for granted, it makes him feel like he is in control.

And the person in control of the relationship gets to set the rules.

He knows that you’ll be chasing him, no matter what.

That means he gets to do whatever he wants, and will spend his time with whoever he pleases without any regard for you, knowing that you’ll still be clinging on to him.

That is until he loses you.

When a man loses a woman, he suddenly loses this sense of control over the relationship. And together with it goes his sense of self-esteem and stability.

Realizing this, he will start to reflect on his actions and behavior.

And if he had a deep connection with you, he will begin to step up his game in an attempt to win you back.

(To learn exactly how to create a deep connection with any man, click here!)

10. He Sees You As A Woman Of High Value

After dating for a while, your man will be able to see your insecurities quite clearly.

So when you’re feeling unloved and mistreated by him, and you’re wondering to yourself how to win his attention back and whether you deserve him at all, he can detect this in your vibe and behavior.

From his point of view, this comes off as insecure, needy, and worst of all: Low value.

The sad thing about this is it creates a vicious cycle: The more he thinks you’re a low-value woman, the more he takes you for granted.

This makes you feel even more isolated and neglected, and fills you up with even more doubts and insecurities.

The cycle goes on and on… Until he loses you.

Once you leave the picture, the cycle will be broken. He will no longer “look down” on you. Instead, he will be left with a gaping hole in his heart and miss you like crazy.

And if you stay strong, he will realize that you are not the type of woman who will tolerate his behavior, and wait forever for him to become available.

He will no longer see you as just a pretty face, but as a woman who knows her worth, and knows what she wants and deserves.

And he will finally realize that he was wrong to lose such a high-value woman.

A man who shared a deep connection with you in the first place will do all this and much more. And even if you didn’t share such a connection, it’s not too late to start…

How To Build A Deep Connection With Any Man And Make Him Commit

Ask yourself this:

When you picture that perfect relationship in your head where the couple loves and cares for each other with an unbreakable passion… What do you feel?

For some women, it’s a sense of jealousy. For others, it’s discouragement.

Some might go as far as to think this sort of relationship is simply not possible, and give up on any hope of ever achieving it.

But be honest with yourself:

Whether it’s a close friend, a relative, or a public figure, we all know at least someone who is in this sort of relationship.

It’s that deep, special bond that lets you know exactly how the other person is feeling, and you can simply let go of all your worries and relax into the warm, powerful love that he gives you from the bottom of his heart.

And you know what’s funny? These people seem to have it so easy, as if they didn’t even have to try!

Now, it might be quite hard to believe right now, especially if you’re hurting…

But you can enjoy this sort of relationship too.

In fact, we’ve already coached hundreds of women around the world to do exactly this.

It all comes down to pushing a few “emotional buttons” inside a man’s heart, and forming a deep connection with him that forces him to completely devote himself to you, never even thinking of mistreating you in any way.

And today, we want to help you do the same.

So to help you get started, we’ve prepared a handy guide on how to form a deep and devoted connection with any man. And today, it’s yours for free:


Use these easy techniques to “lock-in” a man’s commitment to you, and to make him love you FOREVER!

Once you start using the simple tips included, you will never have to worry about losing a man or being taken for granted by him.

In fact, he will be the one constantly chasing you, worshipping you, and trying his best to put a smile on your face every single day.

And you will finally be able to feel his warm love and devotion as you relax in his arms, knowing with 100% certainty that he will always love you and care for you like you’re the most special girl in the world.

Grab your free copy of our guide below, and try out the tips inside. You’ll be surprised at how big of a difference they can make!


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