The Complete Guide: How To Stop Texting Someone

As women, we’ve all been there:

Things happen. You and your partner broke up or decided not to communicate any longer, but you’re having difficulty dealing with it.

You know you shouldn’t. But you just want to get on your phone and text them because that’s what you’re used to, and you still have feelings for him…

We get it – It feels awful fighting your feelings and urges to text a guy after you decided to break it off with him.

For whatever reason, you decided to stop talking to him. There’s a reason why you’re not supposed to text him.

But often, girls can’t hold back and give in to the temptation to text him again. And as a result, texting them can cause a slew of problems.

It might feel good for a second. But by doing so, you’re not only exacerbating the situation, but you’re also causing yourself harm.

So if you’ve made up your mind to stop contacting this guy, read on. Here is your complete guide on how to stop texting someone.

How To Stop Texting Someone After A Breakup

To stop texting someone after a breakup, you have to understand why you keep texting that person in the first place.

Once you figure out the reason, it will be much easier to stop texting other people.

Here are some powerful tips you should follow to stop texting someone and move on with as few hurtful feelings as possible:

1. Remind Yourself Why You Broke Up

We get it: It’s perfectly normal to have lingering feelings after a breakup, and a desire to reconnect with the person you have just broken up with.

However, if your reasons are not mature or logical, you might want to think twice before sending out another text.

It is very important you always remind yourself why you broke up with your ex-lover in the first place.

At the end of the day, more texting will likely prolong the feelings you have for your ex, and simply make it harder for the both of you to move on.

Do not do this to yourself when you already know it’s not going to work out.

Think of the reason why it is time for both of you to move on. Remind yourself that it will be better for both of you if there is no texting between the two of you anymore.

2. Delete Or Block His Phone Number

It may seem harsh, but if you find it hard to stop texting each other after the breakup, it may be a good idea to delete your ex from your phone.

You can also block your ex’s phone number. This will stop you from being tempted to text him back.

If you do decide to go down this route, you may want to leave one method of communication open to him, just to be civil. But make sure it is something that you won’t check as often, such as email.

3. Spend Time With Friends And Family

When going through a breakup, people may avoid their family and friends, especially when the pain is still fresh in their hearts.

This is because they do not want to have to explain and talk about the breakup to everyone they see.

However, it is very important that you spend time with your friends and family. It will help you take your mind off him, and stop you from texting him after the breakup.

Surround yourself with positive people who will never judge you for what happened between you and your ex-lover.

It’s a powerful way to move on in life. And before long, you will lose the urge to text him again.

4. Meet New People 

When you feel like you’re ready, try to go out and meet new people. It’s a great way to move on in life and heal your heart.

You don’t have to actively seek a new relationship right after a breakup. But you can start meeting new people so you do not feel so uncomfortable without him anymore.

Go out with your friends, and have a good night out together. There are plenty of new people to connect with there, so make an effort to open your heart up again.

If you feel that you are still holding on to some memory of your ex-lover, this is a great way to keep him far away from your thoughts.

5. Reconnect With Yourself Again

Breakups hurt. But they are also an opportunity for you to rediscover yourself and become a better person.

Remember that it’s not about him. It’s about the things that you take away from the relationship.

Despite the broken trust and emotional pain, there are probably a few lessons you can pick up from your relationship.

When you stop texting your ex after the breakup, reconnect with yourself again. Learn from the experience, and stay strong.

It’s ok to take some time for yourself to heal. But avoid getting stuck in an unhealthy mode of grieving for too long.

You can also work on becoming more self-confident and assertive, which will make it easier for you to move on and become a better person in life.

Although your ex-lover is already out of your life, it is important to remind yourself that your feelings and wellbeing come first.

How To Stop Texting Your Crush Or Boyfriend

If you have a new crush, dating someone, or are in a relationship, texting is the quickest way to get in touch with your partner.

It may seem like you are spending time with them, but texting can actually become a substitute for actually being with them.

This can consume a lot of your time and energy, plus you may end up worrying about whether that person is spending their time texting someone else.

This is when you know you’re texting too much, and you should probably stop before it hurts your relationship permanently.

If you find yourself in this kind of situation, try the following solutions:

1. Spend Time With Each Other In Person

When in a relationship, most people make every effort to spend every minute of free time with each other. This is probably the starting point of why people text so much.

If you’re spending time with your crush/date often, you’re probably texting them more because it’s just easier and more convenient than hanging out with them in person.

You can’t stop texting your partner completely, but try to do more things in person with them.

Schedule a day where you’ll spend time together, so that you can spend quality time with each other, instead of indulging in half-hearted text conversations throughout the day.

If you can’t make a date, at least make a plan of what you want to do and build it into your schedule for the week. You may even want to change up your routine or location on a weekly basis.

2. Take Care Of Your Own Health And Wellbeing

It’s easy to lose track of time and use your phone too much when you’re texting. And if you spend a lot of time texting, it’s very likely that you’re spending a lot less time on self-care and well-being activities.

So as you cut back on texting, make sure you’re getting enough sleep, eating proper meals, and taking care of yourself both physically and mentally.

Once you’ve spent time with your partner, and taken care of yourself and your health and well-being, you’ll be ready to finally stop texting when it’s not absolutely necessary.

This way, you won’t feel guilty about saying ‘no’ to any texting that won’t lead to anything productive or meaningful for your relationship.

3. Start A New Hobby

Hobbies are a good way of spending your time when you’re not together with your man.

It is impossible to stop texting him completely, but at least you will get a nice break from your phone.

And when you do message him, it will be less of a hassle or chore, and more of a welcome treat for both of you to be able to communicate.

So as you cut back on texting, make sure you invest some time and energy into an activity that will help you feel good and distract you from the urge to text every minute.

4. Spend Less Time With Your Phone

No matter who you’re texting, too much time spent on your phone is never a good thing.

Be honest with yourself: Most of the time, you’re not doing anything important on your phone. You’re just bored and looking to be entertained.

Before long, your partner will become yet another distraction that you cling to when your mind can’t focus on the present moment.

This can be very bad for your relationship.

You can talk to your partner on the phone whenever you want, but try not to forget that it’s just one more way of talking to each other when you get the chance.

So if you find yourself checking your phone constantly or too much time spent on social networking sites or in e-mail, try to spend less time on the phone.

5. Stop Thinking About Him When He’s Not Around

It is common to think about your partner every single second since you are in a relationship with him.

But it’s much better for your relationship to think less about him when he’s not around.

Instead, occupy your mind with whatever is in front of you at the moment.

And when you are together in person, put your full focus on each other.

This is much healthier for both of you, and you will feel more appreciated and loved by your partner.

And on the occasions when you do text each other, it will be a pleasant surprise instead of something you expect and don’t fully appreciate.

6. Set A Goal For Yourself

If you feel that you are wasting too much time texting your man, make it a goal to cut down your texting time.

As you start to cut back on texting, block off a certain amount of time each day as “phone-free” time.

This way, your phone won’t distract you from the things you need to do throughout the day. This also helps keep your focus on what you think is important.

What’s more, you won’t be using your partner’s texts as a distraction or “quick fix” for your boredom anymore.

This makes your conversations deeper and more heartfelt, instead of casually and mindlessly spread throughout the day.

If you find yourself feeling guilty about not texting him enough, you can remind yourself of the goal you set for yourself.

As you feel more comfortable with this goal, it will be easier to stick to it.

How To Stop Texting Someone Who Ignores You

If a guy ignores you, there is no point in texting him over and over again.

This is only going to turn him off and push him away further.

The truth is: There is no way to “convince” someone to like you, no matter how many texts you send him.

This is because attraction is not a logical process, but an emotional one.

Your goal is not to chase him and pull him into your life. You want him to be the one desperately chasing you, and begging for a chance at your heart!

So if you want him to stop ignoring you and to open up his heart to you, you should stop whatever you’re doing in terms of texting.

Instead, you need to focus on building a strong emotional connection with him first.

By doing this, he will feel a natural and powerful desire from you from deep inside, and an uncontrollable urge to devote himself to you completely.

This is the key to getting a man to stop ignoring you, whether he is someone you have a crush on, or a partner with whom you’re having relationship troubles.

How To Resist Texting Him First

Do you feel like you are always the one who is texting him first? Well, this is actually a very unhealthy sign for any relationship or crush, and it can lead to some very messy situations down the road.

Here’s the problem:

A healthy relationship is a two-way street. You should both be equally invested in each other, and both share the same level of desire to text with each other.

But when you’re always the first one reaching out to him, you come off as needy and clingy. This will cause him to lose attraction for you and become distant.

The biggest reason you have the urge to text him first is that you have bottled up emotions and thoughts that you are keeping from him.

Perhaps you’re not getting your needs met in your relationship together. Or maybe he’s your crush and he doesn’t know you like him at all!

In any case, it is never healthy to keep your emotions bottled up inside. They will only get stronger over time, and the outburst that eventually happens can drive people away.

The fact that you’re feeling these emotions in the first place is your heart’s way of telling you that you need to do something about them.

So rather than keep these feelings hidden, express them. You may find it easier to talk to a friend first, instead of going directly to him.

It might be difficult to make yourself vulnerable this way, especially to someone who you really like, but it will be well worth it in the end.

The key here is to be honest and genuine with them. Make sure to do this in person, and don’t do it without thinking it through, and know your own heart first.

How To “Lock-In” A Man’s Devotion And Make Him Yours Forever

As dating and relationship coaches, we believe you deserve to enjoy a loving, devoted relationship with the best man possible.

But here’s the harsh truth:

Only about 2% of women end up doing so.

Most women will go through life without ever experiencing this, going through disappointment after disappointment in their relationships, and growing old without ever ending up with their ideal match.

But every now and then, you’ll meet that one couple who seem to have it all…

In fact, you probably already know some women who have that perfect relationship, and never have trouble with guys.

So what are these women doing differently?

Here’s the secret:

It’s not about your body…

It’s not about your age…

And it’s not about your looks either…

It all boils down to being able to trigger the natural “devotion instincts” inside a man’s mind.

To learn exactly how to do this, check out our free guide now:

Here’s the thing we’ve noticed in the women we coach:

The first thing that happens once you start using these simple techniques is everything becomes EASY.

You will find it EASY to talk to guys at parties and draw their attention.

It will become EASY to captivate a man, and make him obsessed with you.

And it will become EASY to make him devote his entire being to love you, cherish you, and make you feel like the most special girl in the world.

Learn the techniques now and try them out for yourself – You will be surprised at how big of a difference it makes in your life!