Be honest with yourself:
Do you think your husband still loves you?
Does he keep you in his heart?
Do you even feel loved anymore?
Here’s the sad truth:
Most marriages WILL eventually break down and fail.
Many couples stay married without love until they die.
Other times, they decide to separate after years of marriage.
In many cases when a husband is not attracted to his wife anymore, he might start seeing other women.
If you’re in this situation, you probably feel very lost…
You remember the time when he used to love you with all his heart.
He’d hold you tight in his arms, kiss you passionately, and make you feel like the most special person in the world.
But then, something happened…
Now, your husband doesn’t care about how you feel.
He’s not affectionate or romantic anymore, and is negative about everything…
Maybe he stopped saying “I love you” like he truly means to… Maybe he lost interest in you.
Maybe deep down, he wants to leave you.
As relationship coaches, we understand.
Every year, thousands of couples go through the same thing.
If you want to stop your husband from falling out of love, you need to read this article very carefully.
In This Article:
Top 10 Things To Do When Your Husband Doesn’t Love You Anymore
Today, we’re going to show you EXACTLY how to make your husband attracted to you again, and stop him from falling out of love with you.
Unfortunately, a lot of women make a big mistake.
They start trying to “save the marriage” by pulling their husbands back.
Here’s the thing:
You can never force someone to have feelings for you.
When women try to “fix” a marriage, they end up turning their husbands off even more.
If you really want to save your marriage, you need to make him WANT you again from the bottom of his heart.
The only way to save a relationship in trouble is to make your husband care about you again.
To do this, we have to use the power of psychology.
In this article, you’ll learn 10 techniques to trigger love inside a man’s mind.
These will remind him of the powerful love he felt for you before, and bring it back into his consciousness.
Be sure to read this article carefully from start to finish – One wrong move can send a bad message, and damage your fragile marriage…
1. Show Him That You Trust Him
Right now, you might be wondering:
“Why doesn’t he care about me anymore?”
Time and time again, we’ve seen this happen in married couples.
The answer is actually quite simple…
But first, you have to understand something very important about male psychology:
A man’s self esteem is based on how trusted he feels by his loved ones.
If his family and friends don’t trust him with responsibilities, he feels useless.
This is especially true for his wife.
So the best way to make your husband feel good in your marriage is to show that you trust him.
This means trying not to criticize him, even for small things.
If he forgets to buy something at the supermarket, or makes a mistake about his errands, remind him gently and brush it off.
And for the tasks he accomplishes around the house, compliment him for them.
If you want your husband to take care of you, the first step is making him feel responsible and trustworthy.
Once you manage to do this, he will actually start doing more for you, and taking the initiative to tend to your needs.
2. Show Your Appreciation For Him
Likewise, you should always show appreciation for your husband, even for the small things.
If he feels appreciated by you, he is much more likely to stay in the relationship.
The reason why many husbands fall out of love with their wives is because they don’t feel loved!
So the next time he gives you a kiss, or makes you coffee in the morning, show him you appreciate it.
Tell him how good it feels to feel his affection, and how much better life is with him around.
The key is to let him know – There’s no point keeping these thoughts inside!
3. Create A Routine For Romance
Let’s make something clear right away:
No, a relationship cannot survive without love.
If you don’t bring back romance into your marriage, there is no hope for it surviving in the long run.
In fact, if your husband’s heart isn’t in the relationship, he will just feel annoyed when you try to pull him back.
But there’s a problem:
How do you bring love back into the marriage?
Here’s the thing…
You can’t force a person to feel something.
And love is a feeling, first and foremost.
It’s not easy to feel this way all the time, for years and years…
The first step is to create a routine that grows romance.
If you want to cultivate a feeling, regularity is key.
Start by reserving a set time each week for both of you.
You can spend this time doing anything you both enjoy. It can be a nice dinner, or going into the outdoors for a hike.
Be sure to stay intimate too – The emotional effects of a sexless marriage include loneliness and depression, and can be very damaging to your mental health.
The most important part is to spend this time with each other, away from work and other commitments.
4. Reserve Time For The Family
Here’s a crucial thing to remember:
A marriage is more than a couple.
It’s a relationship that holds a family together.
As we go about our daily lives, it’s easy to forget that family is one of the most important things in life.
That’s why you must reserve “family time” in a daily schedule, especially if you have children.
For most families, this is usually dinner time.
It’s important that everyone in the family respects this as time to spend with each other.
This means setting aside phones, TV and distractions for a while.
Making this a part of your daily routine keeps the family together, and reminds every family member the importance of each other.
5. Surprise Him
It’s also important to break from your routine from time to time.
One of the biggest signs a relationship is failing is when day-to-day life with each other becomes boring and predictable.
This is especially true for men. A lot of times, a lack of affection from your husband can be explained by boredom.
So every once in a while, aim to surprise him and do something unexpected for him.
This does not have to be limited to the bedroom.
In fact, little acts of kindness like gifts and making dessert for him when he least expects it can bring a smile onto his face and melt his heart!
6. Make Sure There Is Two-Way Communication
Often, a desperately unhappy marriage happens because both husband and wife are keeping their thoughts and emotions to themselves.
Here’s a huge mistake many couples make:
Right now, you might be avoiding letting him know about the ways he is hurting you, thinking this would annoy him and pull you further apart…
This couldn’t be further from the truth.
Communication is one of the most important parts of a healthy relationship.
In fact, there’s no way a married couple can stay in love if they don’t even know how each other feels!
So from now on, here’s what you do:
Take a moment every day to reflect on your own emotions and thoughts.
Be completely honest with them, acknowledge them, and accept them.
Whenever you feel your husband doesn’t know about what’s happening in your heart, let him know.
The key is to do it gently and without judgement – Instead of criticizing him or telling him what to do, just express what you feel.
On top of this, you need to make sure the communication goes both ways.
A great idea is to check in with your husband daily. Ask him how his day went, and encourage him to speak up about his feelings.
Once he realizes you truly care, he will open up again and let you into his heart just like he did before.
7. Improve Yourself
A lot of women start hitting the gym, hoping their husbands will find them attractive again…
Unfortunately, they’re making a big mistake.
Right now, you’re probably feeling the same as them.
You might be feeling neglected and disrespected.
But here’s the thing:
If you want to get respect from your husband, you have to start by respecting yourself.
This means you have to improve and take care of your own mind and body.
Staying fit is a great thing, but if you’re doing it just to please your husband, you’ll end up driving him further away.
Instead, you should be doing it as an act of self-love.
This also means you should take care of your mental wellbeing too. If you’re feeling frustrated all the time, meditation will help you clear your mind and feel at peace.
8. Defuse and Forgive
When you get married and live with someone for many years, some conflict is inevitable.
Sometimes when you are both stressed, the smallest disagreements can turn into huge arguments.
Often, it starts off with someone being annoyed at the other person…
This person then gets mad and becomes defensive.
The couple then feed off each other’s negativity and anger, and get caught up in their emotions.
This causes things to get worse and worse.
If you’re already falling out of love, this can completely destroy your marriage.
Fortunately, the solution is actually quite simple.
We call it “Defuse and Forgive”.
When you feel your husband has been triggered by something, do not feed his frustration.
You can defuse the argument before it even starts, simply by staying calm and apologizing.
On the other hand, your husband might do something that triggers negative emotions in you…
In this case, don’t act out on these impulses.
Instead, take a deep breath, forgive him and let it go.
When you defuse these situations early on, your husband will also calm down and let go of his anger too before he loses control of his emotions.
If you practice this long enough, he will also see the benefit of staying calm and working together with you, instead of against you.
9. Understand Him First Before Being Understood
Everybody knows: Guys play it cool and don’t like to express their emotions.
This is why husbands will slowly withdraw and no longer show affection in a marriage.
At this point, many women feel badly hurt, and start accusing their heartless husbands of neglect.
But this is the wrong thing to do, and can damage your relationship even more.
Instead, you should seek to understand him first before being understood.
When he comes home stressed and fussy after a long day of work, ask him how he’s feeling, and talk to him in a caring tone.
It’s easy to take it personally, and assume he no longer loves you. But this is a bad way of thinking.
Take a deep breath – Understand that he is hurting, too, and he needs your love right now.
10. Practice Patience
In our coaching sessions, many women become impatient with their husbands, wondering when he will finally change…
Unfortunately, saving a marriage doesn’t happen overnight.
Do not expect things to magically become “fixed” after one week of following these steps.
In fact, you need to be open to changing too during this process.
And a big part of this is learning to be patient.
So when you start wondering why your husband does nothing special for you, stay calm and understanding.
It’s not easy, but if you stick to these steps, your husband will slowly open his heart to you once again.
BONUS: Avoid These 3 Mistakes That Will Kill You Marriage
As we’ve already covered, love is a FEELING that comes from the heart…
You see, it’s not easy to always feel that way.
In fact, it’s extremely difficult to keep love alive as the years pass by.
That’s why more than half of marriages fail in today’s world.
(And only a very tiny percentage of couples actually enjoy their marriage)
As relationship coaches, we’ve seen this happen again and again.
And we know EXACTLY what makes marriages break down…
It all comes down to psychology and emotional dynamics.
There are certain “emotional triggers” inside a man’s mind.
If you do the right things and say the right words to target them, he will feel an undying love for you once again, and love you with passion and devotion from the bottom of his heart.
However… The opposite is also true.
Many women 3 critical mistakes that trigger their husbands in a bad way.
It immediately shuts down the “love” areas in their brain, and makes them emotionally cold and uncaring.
In fact, he will start to see you as an unpleasant person that he wants to get rid of and remove from his life.
Unfortunately, many women make these mistakes without even knowing.
If you want to learn more about these 3 mistakes that destroy marriages, check out this video now:
As an international marriage coach, Brad has personally fixed thousands of relationships, and has a success rate of over 90%.
Sadly, many women continue to make these 3 mistakes…
They slowly see their husbands turn away and lose interest.
They watch as their husbands get more cold and distant. Their relationship becomes less and less intimate.
Soon, he doesn’t even want you anymore. He never pays attention to you at all.
Deep down, he starts thinking about life without you.
That’s why you need to act IMMEDIATELY.
The longer you wait, the further apart you and your husband will become…
And soon, it will be too late.
Start fixing these mistakes TODAY, and see how quickly your husband comes back to your side. The difference will surprise you.